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smo321
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any other WM sometimes jealous of SAHM???
smo321
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Because of all the fun stuff they offer only during the week that you could take your LO to if you weren't working??? Like the different Mommy and Me stuff, tumble classes, swim classes etc....
There are many times I hear other moms that are SAHM talk about all the fun stuff they do with there kids and they say you should come. But I always say, that does sound like fun but I have to work. I wish some of this stuff would be offered in the evenings and on the weekends. But it just seems like no one ever thinks about the Working Moms schudules.
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Re: any other WM sometimes jealous of SAHM???
My daughter is in school now so that during the day stuff isn't an option anymore, but it always upsets me when I see all these activities offered in the middle of the day that working parents could never take their kids to.
On the flip side, if I didn't work, I wouldn't be able to afford to take my daughter to the activities I do
I do get a little jealous when my SAHM friends talk about how they are at the beach, or outside doing XYZ with their kids b/c the weather is beautiful when I'm stuck inside a cubical all day. But this week with the time change, it's been a little better since DS and I have been able to do some stuff outdoors in the evenings.
I don't get jealous about this but rather super annoyed when I look at activity's like swimming lessons that are scheduled at 4:30pm in the burbs. I get home at 5:30pm, which for most people is pretty darn early in the evenings. It's one thing to be in the city and have these times, but how is any working parent supposed to be able to get to an activity at 4:30pm???
(Popping over from the SAHM board)...
I think if I worked, I wouldn't be interested in scheduling us any more than we were already scheduled, so maybe that's why there is a lack of activities that are just evenings and weekends? Even as a SAHM, we get super scheduled sometimes with activities, and it's nice to have a day or two of downtime afterwards. I'm not sure having to rush to an evening activity, or wake up and use weekend family time for Gymboree would really appeal to me.
I look at all of these M-F activities as things for people to do when they are home with children, whether it be a nanny or a parent. If your child is in daycare, chances are they are doing lots of fun activities all week long, so you shouldn't feel pressure to do even more "stuff" with them.
I am occasionally jealous of SAHMs, but not because of the activities. Some days I would just like to have more time to do the stuff I want to do and it seems like work gets in the way - ha! But, I feel like DD does enough fun stuff during the week that I don't really need/want to give up my time on the weekends to do that with her. Sometimes we do swimming lessons on weekends though, but that is about it. I do get jealous of stuff in the summer like going to the pool or zoo on non-weekend days, just because of the crowds, but overall it doesn't bother me.
There are Pump it Ups around me and a playground store that have weekday times where you can pay $5 and go use their stuff during the winter. This winter, I would have given anything for activities like that on the weekend, just so I could get DD more real activity - it was such a crappy winter and there just isn't that much to do and I could tell that we were all getting cabin fever. It's making me want to join the Y for family swim times next winter. If I go part time, we might, but I have to figure out how much we would actually use it to make it worth it.
Not really - my DD does alot of that stuff at daycare, so I know she's not missing out. I think alot of those activities are more for the mom's benefit adn so they have somewhere to go/somewhere to be - otherwise the week just stretches out w/ nothing on the schedule.
I am jealous of the flexibility that SAHM moms have though.
I get what you're saying but sometimes it feels like we don't even get the chance to do this stuff with our kids. Sure they do stuff at daycare/ school, but *I* would like to do things with her. The only time I see stuff offered is Saturday morning and whaddyaknow, those classes book up in nanoseconds.
A little, I'm part of a list-serve in our neighborhood that has WM and SAHMs. They are always posting about going to this park or museum and it makes me sad that I'm stuck at work in a cubicle.
I've noticed there are some classes offered on the weekends that I might take advantage of in the spring, but I definitely wouldn't want to overschedule us.
I would like to do something besides sit at home on the weekends with LO, now that the weather is nicer.
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I feel a little guilty sometimes that I'm NOT jealous of SAHMs. I love DS. I miss him throughout my day but our arrangement works out great for our family. In January, we had a bunch of really bad weather days so I worked from home with him. I expected to sleep-in, work at my own pace, have an enchanting frolic through the snow with G, but I STILL woke up at 5:30a, could only squeeze in work when he was napping or occupied with something other than being held by mommy (I'm an editor, so all I was really doing was proofreading manuscripts which is surprisingly difficult with a wiggling kid in your arms), and when DH came home I told him the next day I was dropping him off with my dad so I could finish what I was supposed to do that day.
As far as activities, DS is too young to really do anything at this point, but I don't want DS to get involved in a million things when he's older. I'd rather him pick an activity or two and just enjoy the heck out of them than be running around town in a frenzy, trying to keep up with X,Y,Z, school, and church.
I'm home by 3, so honestly in the winter I get bored being home alone w/ DD for 3 hours. Now that the weather is nice, I am enjoying going for longer walks and going to the park. I'm looking forward to being home during the summer. We do gymboree on Saturdays and that's worked out well. However, if I stayed home full time I'd get bored. I'd like to work p/t, I feel I could fill 2-3 days well, but that;s about all.
Sometimes I lurk on the SAHM bored. Probably 85% of the posts that have to do w/ SAH deal with making side money, saving money, or what they do to keep busy. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. I like having money and keeping time w/ DD active, not looking to kill time.
Thanks! That was really nice of you. I agree. I know my DD is only 7 months old but she is in daycare all day so during the week I don't feel as bad if we just chill and don't play as much although we do still play. Just spending time reading etc. is enough for me. I do wish that there were some activities on the weekends that we could do but we make do. There is still plenty for us to do on the weekends so as she gets older we will get to enjoy these things.
Ashley!! Oh my gosh C is getting so grown up!! Are you still on APN? Hope you're doing well!
(I'm a WM-to-be)
I think jealous is the wrong word. It makes me annoyed at the organizers of these events and activities.
I've been researching stuff I want to do when LO arrives and there is a mommy-and-me yoga class that I'd LOVE to do, but it's weekday. Same thing with a playgroup at my church.
But those things don't make me with I was a SAHM. They make me wish it was offered on the weekends.
FWIW, I plan to talk to my pastor and see if I can organize a weekend (or evening) playgroup and I'm also e-mailing the yoga studio owner and I'm going to offer to see if she's willing have a weeknight or weekend mommy&me yoga class if I do the legwork in getting the word out and bringing people in. I have a ton of friends who are WMs.
So you could always think of organizing these activities on your own?
Carla! Hi! I am looking to see if I have your email address, but also paged you on here.