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March 2011 Moms
eeyoreem
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Completely hormonal rant (long)
eeyoreem
member
Warning, I'm hormonal and this will probably seem selfish and stupid.
There are several things bothering me and I know it's silly to be upset about them but I am anyway. First, is the fact that my baby isnt here yet. Going into this I tried to prepare myself for being overdue because of family history. I still expect it to be that way but it's so hard to come back here every day and see all the birth announcements. I'm so happy for all of you with your outside babies but I'm so incredibly jealous. I'm not even overdue yet and I'm sure you 40+ weekers would tell me to suck it up. I just want it to happen soon for all of us.
The 2nd thing bothering me is my dad. He's getting remarried this summer. My mom passed away 2 yrs ago from ovarian cancer and we were very close. I still have not come to terms with this completely and it bothers me that he is heating remarried. I know he deserves to move on and I do like the woman but she is not my mom and I just can't deal sometimes. My dad is currently in Australia and has been for the majority of my pregnancy. He is also on dh and I's cell plan. I don't have a problem with that and we also have dh's mom on it too. We can get up to 5 lines and today he called asking me to put his future wife on the plan. Like I said I like her but I feel like they should get their own plan now that they're getting married. I just don't want her on the plan at all and I feel weird about it. I don't feel comfortable expressing myself to my dad, especially over the phone. Everything about their relationship reminds me of how I will never have my mom around again and I feel like a total *** for feeling this way.
Anyway, thanks for reading if you got this far.
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Re: Completely hormonal rant (long)
You are so close to the babies due date, just hang in there. When ours came early, I was so not prepared. I still had so much to do to get ready for his arrival, and now I'm trying to do all that with him here and it's exhausting. The baby will come when it's ready.
As for your dad, I don't have much experience with this, but from what I've seen with older men, they don't know how to be alone for long and the easiest thing for them to do is get married. My DH's grandfather did this about a year after his wife died and so did one of my fellow teacher's dad's. Don't take it personally. He is not replacing your mom, he's probably just lonely and wants the companionship. As independent as men seem to be, they don't like to go through life alone.
Regarding your dad, I'm so sorry. I would be so sad, too. I think you are brave to talk about it and be so honest. Keep doing that. Communicating your feelings to someone will make it better. Agai ((big hugs)).
I'm with you -I'm now 5 days overdue with a failed induction under my belt and I'm miserable! Just hang in there though, you could still go before your due date! I truly know how hard it is though!
As for your dad - I agree with PP... and I'm sorry about your mom - my mom died 4 years ago, but my dad never remarried and I don't see him doing so - just the way my dad is... so I can't understand your situation completely from that standpoint, but I do know how terribly hard it is without having a mom anymore - and just know that your dad is not trying to replace her, like PP said, he probably just doesn't want to be alone.
Hang in there! Hormones are SUPER STRONG at this point - trust me, I'm in tears numerous times a day lately! Soon, we'll both have our babies and it'll all be ok!