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September 2011 Moms
natkay02
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"We" are pregnant.
natkay02
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Usually I cringe at this. When I hear someone's husband say this, I want to scream "NO YOU AREN'T! YOU CAN DRINK BEER! YOU AREN'T THROWING UP CONSTANTLY! YOUR BODY WILL STILL BE THE SAME AFTER THIS!" (Sorry for all the caps, but I just think it was necessary to convey my anger.)
So the back story to this rant is that yesterday I bought some hershey's mini chocolate bars to give to my "secret pal" at work for St. Patty's day. Well this morning when I went to wrap them up there were only 3 left. Here's the textersation:
Me: You better not have eaten my hersheys. Those were for a gift.
DH: Well you shouldn't have left them within my reach, Natalie. I've got no control right now. We're pregnant.
I rolled my eyes at first and then laughed. What a doofus! Any dumb husband stories you'd like to share? Has your SO ever said "We're pregnant"? Is this a pet peeve of yours?
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Re: "We" are pregnant.
We conceived.
We are expecting.
We are having a baby.
I am pregnant.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
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Yes! It is a pet peeve of mine too. I also am not a fan of the phrase "We're expecting." I don't know why but I always want to be a smart ass and say "Expecting what?"
I know H had just as much of a hand (hee hee, maybe not exactly his hand) in making this baby, but like you said Nat, he isn't pg!
This exactly. He said it once and I gave him the talk so now he even corrects other people when they say it.
Yup, I agree. We are a lot of things, but pregnant is not one of them. When I tell people it is either that I am pregnant or we are expecting. My husband does the same thing.
It's bugs the HECK outta me!
Especially in this instance:
My FI and his parents went to a cake tasting meeting to plan for our April wedding and we began talking about the date and how it was originally scheduled for September but decided to move it up. Usually when the subject comes up I just leave it at that to avoid the whole "shot gun wedding" conversation, which gets old and isn't the main reason that we decided to do it this way.
So, when the cake guy says "wow, that's coming up fast, is everything falling into place?" I say "yep, looks great." Of course FI decides to say "yeah, we decided to move it up from September, but things are coming together well." To which the cake guy says "Oh, well that's a big leap, but at least it's all working out."
Perfect, smoothest conversation, let's eat cake, right? No. Then MIL decides to chime in "We're expecting."
Seriously? I roll my eyes when the hubbies or SO's get in on the "we" attitude, mainly because I just really want a glass of wine and I'm secretly jealous of them...but seriously MIL! It's OUR BABY, she's already had her baby and now needs to let us have our time. *this post has been edited due to the fact that I felt like swearing but decided to keep it G rated*
So yeah... I totally get the frustration with the universal "we."
This has never bothered me. I actually find it kind of endearing when men say it.
I was really surprised to hear my DH say it. I never pegged him as a "we're pregnant" kind of guy, but he actually says it often. I don't mind at all.
Haha, no. As much as I hate to admit, I really shouldn't have left them on the counter without telling him they were for a gift. If I would have told him he couldn't eat them he really wouldn't have, he's a pretty considerate guy.
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Here's a dumb DH story...so I haven't been able to go into the kitchen without gagging in like 7 weeks. DH makes all my food. (Nice I know). Well, today, I felt better and went in to make something because DH had a minor surgery- but isn't feeling well either.
I noticed that DH had bought natural peanut butter with the full intention of switching it with MY peanut butter and seeing if I noticed? All because my peanut butter has transfat!!! Now, I try to limit transfats. But, some things are sacred. And, my peanut butter is one of those things. Did he seriously think the person who has eaten fluffernutters for 34 years would not notice a switch to natural peanut butter? WTH DH! lol
LOL. No one messes with my Jif. I don't care if there are healthier alternatives.
My feelings exactly.
I don't mind it when my hubby says we're pregnant. Then it doesn't make me feel so bad when I reach for that 2nd bowl of ice cream when he's having another bowl right there with me
As long as he doesn't have a beer in his hand while it's being said, I don't see what the big deal is. But if my MIL ever said it.... Oh heck no! That would be a problem. Big, big problem. At least DH was part of the equation!!
Every time DH gets a couple beers in him he starts in with the pity party for himself about how difficult the pregnancy has been for him. This pisses me off to no end. If I have a mood swing here or there that he has to deal with big whoop - at least he can sleep on his stomach, have some sushi & sake, and doesn't have to plan his day around making sure there is a toilet within a one minute walk at all times.
This would NOT fly with me. I would've totally called her out - "OMG, MIL, you're having a baby too!?"
I don't like hearing guys say "we're pg," and I think I would sh!t a brick if my MIL ever said that.
I've never heard DH say it, and I think he feels the same way about it that most us us seem to - he's not pregnant at all, I am. He usually says "Susie's pregnant" or "we're having a baby."
This made me laugh. It's totally something my DH would have said!
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Technically, we are a WE.
We got married and the two of us became one. 
My husband always gains weight when I'm pregnant. Not because of me eating junk or cooking differently or anything. He seriously gets weird cravings when I'm preggo. He gets sympathy symptoms too. headaches, tiredness, etc.
DH said it once while I was pregnant with DS. My dad said/says it more - not that he's pregnant with us but that DH and I are both pregnant. His reasoning is that he gained weight while my mom was pregnant. Because that's all that being pregnant is.
I had a talk with DH after he said we were pregnant. He doesn't think my viewpoint is correct, and argued his side for months afterward, but he didn't say it again. After witnessing DS's delivery, he's never brought it up again. He will say, "We're going to have a baby."
ETA: On that note, DH just asked me if I'm due in September or when. I pretended to be hurt, and he said, "Hey, I'm not the one pregnant. I make people pregnant!" LOL.
I have to say it was clever & cute of your DH & it made me smile
'We' are pregnant drives me crazy however. Defintely more appropriate to say 'we are expecting'!
Eh, it doesn't bother me so much because my DH hasn't said it. Yes "We" are having a baby, but he understands that I'm the one carrying the baby and he said the reason I get to suffer through all of it because "Eve ate the apple" haha... I blamed her for us getting monthly periods (as a joke of course)...
But what does bug me is when DH is complaining of sympathy headaches when I'm the one that is dealing with constant migraines and I can't take anything for it!!
I don't like it but DH has never said it. However, he does claim to have pregnancy symptoms all day. (Hunger mainly) I roll my eyes!
One thing that does bug me is my mother in law said to me a couple days ago, "Take care of our baby!" That totally annoyed me. I almost said, "you mean mine and DH's baby?"