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PrincessFiona9
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Update and Advice Needed
PrincessFiona9
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EX got "jumped by 5 guys" (according to his FB) and he's "pretty f*cked up" because of it. Why did he get jumped? Ohh perhaps because he's living in a drug dealer's house? Perhaps because he was trying to sell cheap weed and pass it off as "the good stuff"? Or perhaps because he's trying to hook up with a girl who already has a boyfriend? IDK. It could be any of the above. I have been documenting everything I find that shows he's been doing/selling drugs and that shows he's not staying at his sister's house per his home plan.
Here's what I need advice about. I found a photo on his FB that is from right before EX and I broke up. It would have been during the middle of the day when I was at work and he was at home with DD, but there's no date or time stamp on it. There is a pipe sitting on the counter right next to DD. I saved the pic, but I just don't know if I can do anything with it since there's no timestamp on it. I mean, it was a year ago now so I don't know if it will have any relevance when we finally do go to mediation anyway. WDYT?
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Re: Update and Advice Needed
I remember reading an article on this not long ago, that every digital photo has a file of info detailing where and when the photo was taken. FB might strip this file out to protect peoples privacy, but I thought I'd pass along the info anyway.
https://www.ofzenandcomputing.com/zanswers/588
A couple things:
What would a judge see? A judge will see that you knowingly left your child with a man who you knew smoked pot and that now you are trying to blame him for it. The judge may also then wonder whether you are a pot smoker as well. There is no way to know that the pipe wasn't yours.
Also, a picture taken a year ago will likely not be considered probative of current fitness.
http://oi62.tinypic.com/2w73hq9.jpg
Not to hijack, but I'm guessing then an accident report from 2005 wouldn't help? It has a DUI charge on it. If I'm trying to prove an ongoing addiction issue.
An accident report is more probative than a photo because it is an official document and criminal charges of a DUI are relevant. You will need other evidence, but it is certainly worth bringing to the court or to your lawyer. Was he found guilty of the DUI?
http://oi62.tinypic.com/2w73hq9.jpg
Probably not helpful to you since the case was dismissed.
http://oi62.tinypic.com/2w73hq9.jpg
Woah woah wait a sec.
Does he have any sort of custody and or visitation with LO?
you're saying your ex is a drug dealer? or that he "just" lives with them? sorry not flaming just need more info.
(I think i would save the picture no matter what just in case. no such thing as over documentation.)
yes indeedy. there's a website you can plug the photos into to verify date/time and even what kind of camera was used to take it. good call.
Sorry it took so long to get back with you ladies. It's been a madhouse around here between work and having family in town. Anyway, EX hasn't seen DD since last summer. I broke up with him when he started doing drugs and drinking again. Let me give you a basic timeline. In my 2nd tri EX went to jail, came home 5 days after DD was born. He was clean until DD was 4-5 month old, as far as I know. I had not been aware that he was smoking around DD. The weekend before we broke up I found out from a neighbor that he was smoking pot while he was walking our dog. The night I broke up with him he had stolen my debit card and keys and drove my car to a bar, and came home really drunk. It was officially the last straw.
Presently we are at the beginning of the child support/custody case. We just went in for the paternity test last week. He's been in jail twice in the last year, and most recently was in jail from december-march. He just got out less than 2 weeks ago and is living in a drug dealer's house and from what I saw, selling pot as well. He is supposed to be living with either his grandma or his sister. I think that sums it all up.
BGG--thanks for your input and POV. I don't want the judge to think I was aware that EX was using pot or that I was also smoking pot.