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make the triggers go away!!!
I was supposed to be about 8 weeks right now going on 9. I know it's early but it was my first pregnancy and we were super excited. I had to tell my dad which turned into my brother and grandparents (which didn't go well). But it was good, we had a solid plan...then the next day I find out my hormones dropped. I walked out of the dr crying but deep in my heart I already felt I knew. A week later I thought it's okay, it was meant to be. But now I'm triggered by the smallest things. The other day I found out my friend was due the same day as I would have been. I wish this feeling would go away and not run so deep but it seems I cant stop it. I'm glad to see I'm not alone but sadden to see all of the wishful losses. 
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Re: make the triggers go away!!!
BFP #1 10/02/06, EDD 5/1/07 Natural Miscarriage 1 week after BFP
BFP #2 3/28/07, EDD 11/19/07 Natural Miscarriage 2 weeks after BFP
BFP #3 1/16/11, 1st U/S - 1/28/11 HR 132bpm, Missed Miscarriage- 2/28/11, D&C 3/8/11
March 2011, diagnosed with MTHFR gene mutation
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap and tell them about You, but since I didn't get the chance, would You please hold them on Your lap and tell them about me?
BFP #4 6/26/13, EDD 3/8/14, Delivered @ 40w6d
Bethany Elizabeth born on 3/14/14 @ 6:48am weighing almost 8lbs 1oz and measuring 20 1/2 inches.
I've probably said it a bazillion times...whether on here or in real life. It hits me like a ton of bricks, or like a wave crashing down and pulling me under. You never know when it's going to happen or how long it will last. And, I would say having a friend with the same due date (or even due in the same week or month) is a HUGE trigger. I've had a few friends (one co-worker and others are just on Facebook) who have announced their pregnancies since my miscarriage a 5 weeks ago. Most of them are due close to my due date, and I had to hide Facebook friends and tell my co-worker I might have some emotional moments around her.
Cling to the good days. The bad ones become fewer and far between as you go on...
Justin + Laura 10.18.08
TTC #1 09.10/Dx PCOS 12.10/BFP #1 12.29.10/EDD 9.10.11/Missed m/c 2.3.11/D&C 2.15.11
“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”-Kahlil Gibran
Cycle #1 4.2.11 + Clomid = BFN/Cycle #2 5.9.11 + Clomid + Trigger Shot = TWINS!
Walter Allen and Eleanor Joan 1.15.12
Another baby on the way! 8.25.14
I'm so sorry. I know exactly where you are coming from. I was due October 17. My mom called me the other day to "book" me to house sit/dog sit for them in October because they are planning a vacation. I think her exact words were "It will probably be the week of October 17, so surely you don't have anything planned yet." Nope, I was only supposed to be delivering my baby that day. So no, I don't have any plans.
BFP#2 5/28/2011, EDD 2/1/2012, chemical pg
BFP#3 10/22/2011, EDD 6/30/2012, natural m/c 11/3/2011 @ 6 weeks
BFP#4 4/16/2012, EDD 12/24/2012, Beta #1 23 @ 10dpo, Beta #2 68 @ 12dpo, Beta #3 370 @ 16dpo, Saw baby and heartbeat on 5/11/2012.
It's a boy!
Hugs!
I think it hit me the worst when I started my period for the first time after. It was just a reminder of what I didn't have. I cried and cried. It hits me everytime someone announces they are pregnant. I swear 10 of my friends have announced it in the past month. It kills me!