I don't care if women get gifts for pushing, or whatever. But in my case I feel like if my DH had given me a gift I would have felt guilty. He worked just as hard as me through those contractions, getting me to concentrate. He encouraged me to push he held my hand, and was the best labor partner I could ask for. He was up every time I was helping me get him to latch, changing his diaper, encouraging me that breastfeeding would work. He got up with me during the night even after he had to go back to work and I was home on maternity leave. Maybe I just have an awesome husband but I would have to get him a gift if he had gotten me one. However, I don't think that a nice gesture from a caring husband is inappropriate as long as a mother doesn't ask or expect it.
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Re: Pushing gift for Daddy...
From what I see posted on these boards from some women as far as their behavior DURING pregnancy and their expectations and demands on their poor men, and the things they get their maternity panties in a bunch about, I def. think that they should be the ones buying the appreciation gifts for their SO
I said this in the push present thread, we aren't big sentimental gift givers, so neither of us will be exchanging gifts. For us, we would enjoy a nice, fancy, expensive dinner out with a great bottle of wine once baby gets here.
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I'm pretty sure that the contractions were harder on me than on DH!
Sounds like you have an awesome DH.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Hehe...this is good.
I didn't get one with DS. I don't plan on getting one with this one. I think a gift celebrating the birth of your baby is sweet, but the term "push present" is just so...silly. My H did bring me awesome birthday cupcakes. Does that count?
Go Phils!!
I actually want to get DH something. I just can't figure out what yet. He doesn't wear jewelry or even a watch. I would like some collectible - something that he could ultimately share or pass down to our child one day. Not a new video card for his PC, which is probably what he would prefer.
As I said in the other post, we are big gift givers and it actually goes both ways.
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I was in more pain than him but he worked just as hard. The pitocin made it where I could not even concentrate, he would make me focus and get me through each one.
Lol.
NO. He didn't work anywhere near as hard as I did during labor. Didn't recover for 6 weeks. Didn't give up his body for 9 months. No way.
I'd say it was 50/50. When I got tired of pushing, DH took over and birthed the baby on his own.
Bwahaha.
You're more than welcome to start a different thread on another topic.
lol...I totally agree. My time was up, I hopped off the table and he threw his legs up in the air and took it for the team.
Pfffft that's awesome!!!!
Me too! He was like "put me in the game, coach, I am ready". So I said, what the hell, I am over this birthing shtuff.
It's kind of like those relay track races where you pass off the stick to the runner in front of you right?
Yea, pretty much. Or like a basketball game, where I had 5 fouls, and I needed someone to come in and finish big!
I knew I should have held out for the hermaphrodite model.
I'll see if i can find him some sort of welcome to fatherhood whatnot. but totally agree with this. DH isn't the one who has spent days with his head in the toilet. Not saying he is a jerk or bad about it, but sometimes in the morning, he is still in bed when i'm getting sick. This thing is just a tad more work on me that for him. Still may get him something,
I did give my husband a gift when Sam was born-actually told him it was from "the baby" but there is no way in hell I would say he did as much as I did to bring the boy into this world. Um hello, he didn't have any IVs, no pitocin, no contractions, no epidural, not to mention no CS...sure, he was sleep deprived after the labor and delivery, and in the weeks (who am I kidding, years) following the birth...but so was I, and I dealt with all the rest of it.
There is no getting around the fact that women do the physical work of gestating and delivering babies. And no number of times getting up at night to feed the baby (rare, in our case, EBF) or changing of poopy diapers is ever going to make us even in that regard. In all other aspects of parenting, we are equals. In this one, not even close.
This.