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TTC After a Loss
stephsteph77
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PG announcements normally don't bug me at all, but... (pg announcement mentioned, obviously)
stephsteph77
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I am not one to get upset by pregnancy announcements. People talking about pregnancies don't really bother me. I'm totally fine with people posting stuff on Facebook, since I know they aren't thinking about me when doing it - they are just excited and happy. That's a good thing, IMO.
Today a coworker pulled me aside to tell me she was 12 weeks pregnant. She wanted to tell me before she made the "big" announcement to the rest of the staff because of all I went through last year. Nice, right? I appreciated it.
THEN, she starts talking about her NT scan yesterday and how great everything looked. She KNOWS that's when I found out that my baby would not make it, that it was missing appendages, that the growth was all off. Then she starts asking me how I knew something was wrong. What exactly did I see during the ultrasound to tipped me off something was wrong? Did the tech say anything? Did I have to wait until my next doctor appt for the bad news? Was it still moving? And on and on and on...
Now, there is no way of her knowing that I had nightmares about that ultrasound for months. That I still do. That I still think about it EVERY SINGLE DAY, 8 months later. I'm sure she was just trying to reassure herself about her own ultrasound. But come on!!!
And no, I didn't say anything to her. If I did I would have totally fallen apart and had to go home for the day, and she's not worth the sub plans I would have had to make.
Seriously? I need a drink.
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Re: PG announcements normally don't bug me at all, but... (pg announcement mentioned, obviously)
Love the pointy shoe kick! (((hugs))) That is hard and she should have been more mindful.
The insensitivity of people never ceases to amaze me. Asking you questions about your pain to console herself ?!?!?! If I lived where you did, I would TOTALLY get a martini with you
(BIG HUG) I am so sorry that happened to you today.
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Mono/di twin girls: Josephine born to heaven and Evangeline born Earthside at 25w
This! Exactly!! ((hugs))
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Why some people can't use common sense is beyond me. I'm sorry she is being so clueless and insensitive. ((Hugs)) and
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This.
Wow. That is just inexcusable. Those are questions she should be asking her DOCTOR, not a poor co-worker who went through hell.
I am so, so, sorry.
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BFP#3 9.3.12 A healthy, bouncing baby SISTER on the way! EDD 5.12.13
EEEEK!!! AAAAGGHHH!! I totally agree with you re: most pg announcements. They sting, but I understand that isn't the intent of the person announcing.
I hate that you had to even hear those questions. I hope she realizes how insensitive and harsh her questions were and apologizes.
I hope your day is better...have a drink or two tonight!!
Justin + Laura 10.18.08
TTC #1 09.10/Dx PCOS 12.10/BFP #1 12.29.10/EDD 9.10.11/Missed m/c 2.3.11/D&C 2.15.11
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Yes, comfort food. Let's ride if you change your mind about the drinking on the job!
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2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
That is brutal. You have a much better perspective on all of this than I would if I were in your shoes. I'm sorry she didn't think about what she was asking you. If it makes you feel any better, I still have nightmares too.
((Big HUGS))
BFP#1 - 9/2/10, EDD 5/14/11, Twins Hannah and Liam lost 11/7/10 @ 13w1d.
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