Tubes tied after multiples?

fitnessmk · March 2011

I have a daughter and we are expecting twin girls. My doctor was asking about having my tubes tied after my c-section so I have been thinking about it. Did anyone have their tubes tied after babies? How did you really KNOW that you were not going to have any more. I am pretty sure I don't want anymore kids but I keep thinking "what if 3 years from now?"

I don't know. Any suggestions?

Haven1 · March 2011

I know for a fact that I'm done. My doctor doesn't tie tubes for a first pregnancy, but if she would have offered, I would have taken her up on it. My DH is 99.9% sure he's done, but he isn't ready for anything to be snipped on him yet.

I said fine, I'll get an IUD, and you have exactly 5 years to get ready. Someone's getting tied, and the window already got sewn up on me!

lgurian · March 2011

we knew we were done. twos the limit for us (sure we werent planning them at the same time but thats what happened). DH got snipped. it is a very personal decision so i would say if you arent SURE dont do it. there are lots of other BC alternatives. good luck.

jboricua · March 2011

I have 2 daughters 5 and 6 yrs old and twins on the way and actually today I had that conversation with my Dr. I'm only 26 so I didnt want to get my tubes tied because Im still ''young'' and what if 10 years from now when my kids are older I want more children?, also I seen first hand my moms experience she had her tubes tied @ 23 yrs old after 3 children and 9 yrs. later she had the surgery to had it reversed and was really sad and depressed because it didnt work and she really really wanted another baby it really took a toll on her and I didnt want that happening to me but after finding out I was expecting twins and the way this pregnancy is kicking my butt Im definately done plus as years go by everything is getting so expensive 4 children is enough plus wha if we decided to try for 1 more and ended up having twins again lol .... GL with whatever you decide to do..

PS. my sister just had hers tied 3 weeks ago when my nephew was born shes 23 and has 2 children shes very happy with her decision as a single mom 2 kids is enough for her to be able to afford now adays

BNAmommy · March 2011

My twins were #2 and 3 for us, and we'd only planned on 2. Plus we are both in our 30s and there is a big age gap between the 1st and the twins. I'd planned all along with my OB to get my tubes tied, as I knew I was going to be having a c-section. I struggle with the decision even now, almost 2 yrs later. I think it's because quite a few of my younger friends are just getting married and starting their families. But I know it was the right thing to do.

Chickandtaco · March 2011

I always said I wanted 2 maybe 3 kids. My hubby always wanted 3. We have a son and we are having twin girls. That being said, I'm having a really hard time saying 100% we are done forever! Though I can't imagine having 4 kids! We struggled a lot to get pregnant, and to stay pregnant and I'm just having a really hard time with the idea of ending this phase completely. I'm not tieing my tubes I'm just not ready! Like someone else said there are lots of forms of birth control available, I'll decide later.

fitnessmk · March 2011

I find myself worried that 3 years from now I will change my mind. I guess it is so final that is scares me a little. I hate birth control pills. I am having a repeat c-section so it would be very convienant to do it and have it over with and not have to worry about any more babies.

I guess I don't want to make the wrong decision. I am 31 so I wonder if down the road I will want to try for the boy we didn't get (even though it is not a for sure thing).

It is a life changing decision. I will keep thinking.

fitnessmk · March 2011

Chickandtaco:
I always said I wanted 2 maybe 3 kids. My hubby always wanted 3. We have a son and we are having twin girls. That being said, I'm having a really hard time saying 100% we are done forever! Though I can't imagine having 4 kids! We struggled a lot to get pregnant, and to stay pregnant and I'm just having a really hard time with the idea of ending this phase completely. I'm not tieing my tubes I'm just not ready! Like someone else said there are lots of forms of birth control available, I'll decide later.

I couldn't have said it better. That is exactly how I feel. I didn't have problems getting pregnant but the whole idea of having my tubes tied makes me a little sad ( I have no idea why).

AmberB711 · March 2011

I didnt have tubes tied but DH got a vasectomy when the boys were 3 months old. We got comments from everyone about being so soon.

We were planning on having 1 child, we were blessed with 2 healthy boys and we knew thats all who could have and still live the lifestyle we want. Plus although I had a super easy pregnancy I got pre e after delivery and it scared me to death!! I would never want to be pregnant again.

I would say if you are not 100% sure and questioning I would not do it. We were more than 100% sure. I can say I never even had a second thought about it. DH may have as he had a dream a few nights before procedure that I was having the boys but there was a 3rd.

Good Luck with your decision

SLM05 · March 2011

We wanted 2 kids, now we have 4. My pregnancy was very difficult and the boys were born premature (31w 4d) I did not want to go through tha again, plus 4 was enough. I was sure. Sometimes i feel sad to know , it is not possible, but then i think about how i alreayd worry i am not giving the kids enough attention so i kno my decision was the right one.

SoldiersGreenBean · March 2011

My doc only mentioned it on the day of my surgery as a reminder to himself that we weren't doing it.

I would have, but DH had already gotten a vasectomy. We know we're done, and our agreement was always that DH would take care of the permanent BC. He wanted to hold up his end of the bargain even though I had a scheduled c-section.

Torri106 · March 2011

IF has been a part of our lives since we've been married. After 6 IVF's and 7 losses. WE.ARE.DONE! I never thought id be able to do something so permenant but i dont want 4 kids ( i have a 3 y.o. too). I feel at ease with the decision. IDK if its going to be me or him but one of us is doing something permenant. GL with your decision. I say dont do it unless your 100% sure!

schoolsoutbride · March 2011

We wanted one more and got two, so it was a no brainer here. Add in my age (34), and the fact that we have zero desire to do more fertility treatments, and it was mostly a "just in case" move.

bsmead · March 2011

We were trying for "one more" when we got pg with these bambinos. I am 99.9999% sure we are done. However, I am not going to get my tubes tied. Dh, is considering a "big V" and its very possible we will go that route, but I am definately getting my Merina stuck back in (because no periods for 5 years rocks my world)

I would like the oppertunity to surrogate if ever someone close to me need it. So I am keeping all the plumbing in tact.

browneyedgrl4282 · March 2011

I did not have mine tied after either of my births because of a few reasons!

1. I am not sure we are done

2. I was only 27 when I delivered my youngest and thought maybe in a few years when he and the twins were older I would regret doing

3. We went through IVF to have our kids so if I got surprise BFP, I would be so HAPPY no matter what!

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