I feel awful now

ckmommy · March 2011

I went to tour a childcare center today and the teacher of the class C would be in, in just 2 months rubbed me the wrong way. As I was getting my tour she was yelling across the room and roughly put a child in time out. I asked the director if she is like that iften. Her reply was they were working with her regarding it. I did express that I would be concerned enrolling C there becausr of that teacher and didn't agree with her tactics. Well we left and were at home eating lunch when I get a call from the director. She said "without violating employee privacy and revealing too much, she wouldn't be a problem anymore." I feel bad now that this woman has lost her job, but I did the right thing, right?

iHeartHimMore · March 2011

Absolutely! All you did was voice your concern for your child. Sounds like she deserved to get canned. Not at all your fault!

IdahoGirl · March 2011

I doubt they fired her because of one comment. It's always okay to tell someone what you think of their services. They've got your kid.

cwhip77 · March 2011

Of course you did. If she was acting like that with the director and a parent in the room, imagine what she could be doing alone. Your child and the other kids are better off because you spoke up.

ckmommy · March 2011

IdahoGirl:
I doubt they fired her because of one comment. It's always okay to tell someone what you think of their services. They've got your kid.

True. The director said that they have been working with her. She also said she was really embarressed with the excuses she made and that my comment "helped her see the light on a situation she has had issues with for a while."

IkesHawaiian06 · March 2011

I don't see a problem with you addressing your concern. After all, you're leaving C in their care, they need to be doing all that they can to make sure parents are comfortable leaving their children at their center. Good for you for speaking up!

Alli923 · March 2011

No doubt that you did the right thing by voicing your concern! I agree with Deb too, if she was behaving like that with her boss and prospective client in the room, I would not like to know how she was by herself.

And, if you wouldn't want your baby/child treated that way, I'm sure others wouldn't either.

You did NOT get her fired. She got herself fired.

jcyahne · March 2011

cwhip77:
Of course you did. If she was acting like that with the director and a parent in the room, imagine what she could be doing alone. Your child and the other kids are better off because you spoke up.

This exactly. If I were a parent of a child in that class, I'd be thanking you.

mrssmith717 · March 2011

You absolutely did the right thing. Think of yourself in the director's shoes. An employee, who has probably been reprimanded before, and is possibly on a plan to change her behavior, is still failing to improve. Not only that, but it is scaring away enrollment. As a director, I would now be able to say to that employee: We've given you multiple opportunities to improve, you've still had problems, and not only that, but you continued these unacceptable actions in front of parents and other teachers. We have no choice but to let you go.

ALSO- I would totally be thanking you as a parent of the other children!

indigo91804 · March 2011

I can see why you feel bad but don't. Whoever said you didn't get her fired, she got herself fire is totally right. How awful. Can you imagine what that little kiddo felt like and if I were that child's mother, I'd be angry to know I trusted someone to care for my child and that is how they are being treated. It sounds like she was in need of a career change.

StellaZ · March 2011

ckmommy:
She also said she was really embarressed with the excuses she made and that my comment "helped her see the light on a situation she has had issues with for a while."

Are you kidding? That is great....sounds like the kids (and parents) will be much better off.

ckmommy · March 2011

Thank you ladies. I feel better now. I know how difficult it is to find work, so in that respect I feel bad. I left there not wanting to even consider sending C there, which was sad since the director there was very nice and I had a good connection with her. I have worked in childcare before and even though it wasn't the best center, that kind of stuff wouldn't have gone over well there.

ckmommy · March 2011

StellaZ:
ckmommy:
She also said she was really embarressed with the excuses she made and that my comment "helped her see the light on a situation she has had issues with for a while."
Are you kidding? That is great....sounds like the kids (and parents) will be much better off.

Nope. During our conversation on the phone she apologized and said they had to follow certain channels and my comment helped give her the push she needed. She came off as the kind of person who wants to help people reach their potential and give extra chances.

JRS72206 · March 2011

Definitely! Sounds like that woman is no cut out to be working with children! Good for you for voicing your concerns!

TwinMommy09 · March 2011

Yes you did, and my guess is that it sounds like there were other problems and you weren't the reason for her being let go. At the end of the day the other person was in charge of their own actions and you didn't feel comfortable - when it comes to child care I think you owe it to yourself and kid to express your opinion, even if not popular.

KNemo · March 2011

Like all PPs have said, you absolutely did the right thing. You should never be in charge of littles if you don't love and respect them, their feeling and their bodies!

Don't for one minute regret the decision/comments you made. And when you feel yourself doubting, go read the blog Noah's Road! Then you won't have any doubts!

mishquiche · March 2011

You definitely did the right thing. Good for you for saying something!

LifesPeachy · March 2011

She must've been walking on very thin ice already. You did the right thing!

kaskade · March 2011

Just another chime in to say you did the right thing! I have learned that you need to 100% advocate for your childcare or school situation. If something seems off, trust yourself and never feel bad. If it had been your child being thrust into the time out or yelled at, wouldn't you have wanted another parent to speak up?

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