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wwyd?
So at C's preschool there is a round a bout where you can just drive up to pick the kids up from school and drop them off. We always go park and walk C into class in the morning because he wants us to. So in the afternoon its nice to not have to park and walk through the park especially now that I have J with me. Its supposed to be just a quick pick up spot but lately there are quite a few moms who think its social hour, they all get there super early and stand around talking (which is fine) but then even after they get their kids they still stand around talking and no one else can leave until they do because they are blocking everyone. This is against "procedure" by the preschool. I've been really annoyed lately by all this because J is sick and fussy so half the time I'm stuck behind these women with my screaming baby in the car and I just want to get back home. Today I got there super early thinking i would beat them there and ended up 2nd in line behind one of these women who when her friend in the car behind me showed up she got out of her car and went and sat in the friends car for a good 5+ minutes then got out and went back to her car AND GOT HER BABY OUT!!! She had just left the baby in the car alone while she went and sat in someone else's car? WTF? I totally get that sometimes its hard to have a baby with you, I get out of the car and meet Cruz at the sidewalk and walk him back to the car and leave J in the car but I don't go socialize with J in the car and me in a different car?
Anyway I'm at the point where I'm going to email the director of the preschool and tell her what is going on and that a reminder needs to go out because I'm completely ticked off by it all, especially since the director called me one time and said that they had complaints about corey taking too long with Cruz and he wasn't socializing at all!! Sorry that was winded...wdyt?
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Re: wwyd?
Email the director, just like you said.
And honestly, tomorrow, I'd get out of my car and ask them to move so I could get out and explain my baby was screaming and unhappy.
I would definitely email the director at the very least. I might also just ask them if they could park somewhere else since your baby is screaming in the car. Do the teachers walk the kids out? Maybe you could just say something then like "would you mind asking them to keep moving because I'm trapped here".
That's INSANE though IMO. We have a drop off/pick up circle too. You do not get out of your car at all. The teachers buckle your kids in even. There is no screwing around. Our drop off goes FAST.
That's my first instinct too, except that if you do have to escalate it, they'll know it's you and that would make me uncomfortable.
Yeah, but I think if you ask politely and give them a smile, you can easily keep it from being uncomfortable.
A simple "Hey ladies, can I sneak by you? My kid seems to choose pick up time to lose it everyday!" with a smile and I doubt anyone would think anything of it. And if they keep it up, then give it a week or two and email the director. I bet they'll have forgotten by then anyway.
My Mom's school has a drive thru drop off/pick up and the teachers who are at the gate handing the kids to the parents remind them to keep moving. They actually walk the kids to the car so parents aren't tempted to turn it into social hour.
I would email the director or mention it to the teacher in the morning.
I would email the Director and give her these very suggestions from "friends" who say their pick-up works very efficiently. "Maybe it's something we could look into since ours is always backed up and slow?" ...maybe that will get her out there to at least monitor the situation.
This is sort of my thought too and the biggest problem is the teacher out there stands around and chats WITH them and doesn't seem to care because they are including her in their little group.
Normally I would say you should ask them to move in a friendly way, but seeing as though there's a teacher that sits out there talking with them, I'd email the director. Someone else mentioned it, but bring up some of the other ideas that pp's have mentioned and just ask if there is anything they can do to help speed up the process. You never know, there may be other parents who are irritated, but haven't said anything yet.Good luck! That would be annoying to deal with!
This exactly.
This and this!
As a teacher who has dealt with this particular brand of parent, nothing will change until the higher ups get involved. We spent and entire year trying to break parents of this behavior. It caused ugliness and tension with some of the mothers who thought that they were above the rules. But eventually, we got it under control. It is a safety issue, as well as an annoyance.
Skip the pleasntries and go straight to the source. Email, call, or talk to the director in person. And don't stop until it changes!
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OMG- that screams "cool high school crowd" to me, and not in a good way. I'd be writing the letter now. And if I was sitting there with a screaming newborn? I'd have rolled my window down so they could hear the screams and if that didn't work, just lay on the horn. D@mn ladies, we've all been there, have some respect (to those "social moms")