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FYI--Does Everybody Know this?

sweetie0228sweetie0228 member
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I've been seening a lot of newbie...and some not so newbies, saying they just want to have the father "sign away his rights".

Does everyone know this is not something that can be done, unless you have someone willing to adopt and be finanically responsible for the child?

If "signing away the paternal rights" were so easily accomplished there are so many Deadbeat parents that woudl be lining up outside the courthouse (my ex included) as to never pay child support again.

You can have custody arranged so you have Primary custody, you have Residential Custody that you have Legal custody.   You can have it so he has very limited  visitation and he may never exercise it.  But you CAN'T have him sign away his rights.

 Please everyone stop allowing this rumor to continue.  It just doesn't happen.

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  • Mrs.Keith2BMrs.Keith2B member
    :::hangs head in shame:::
     
    I'm guilty of this. However, in my defense, I thought it was something that had to be agreed upon by both parties. I knew that a man couldn't just "sign off" his rights without the mother agreeing. Hence, that would be why it's not common because the women want to keep them accountable for child support. I didn't realize there had to be someone willing to adopt the child in their place.
     
    I guess this makes sense since my bio-father signed his rights away and my dad adopted me when my parents got married 2 years after my mom and bio-father got divorced.
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  • fromthewombfromthewomb
    In certain situations that WOULD be lovely though. Or maybe I'm just bitter... :/
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  • BostonGayGalBostonGayGal member

    The only problem is that this isn't always true.  It can also be done (at least in many states) in situations of child abuse. Often the father must have been found guilty of an offense relating to the injury of a child. In my experience fathers are pressured to surrender their rights when they WANT to have a continuing relationship with the children but it is seen as being clearly dangerous for the child. Financial considerations are very significant in making the determination however because causing a child to be poor and in the need of state assistance is contrary to public policy. 

    * of course it can also happen with mothers as opposed to fathers 



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  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member
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    The only problem is that this isn't always true.  It can also be done (at least in many states) in situations of child abuse. Often the father must have been found guilty of an offense relating to the injury of a child. In my experience fathers are pressured to surrender their rights when they WANT to have a continuing relationship with the children but it is seen as being clearly dangerous for the child. Financial considerations are very significant in making the determination however because causing a child to be poor and in the need of state assistance is contrary to public policy. 

    * of course it can also happen with mothers as opposed to fathers 

    Thanks!  I was hoping you would add some professional knowledge.  It was just really irking me all these girls coming on thinking they can just have a paper notarized saying the Father never ever see or fight for custody because they had nothing to do w/ the pg when for all we know she could have been sleeping w/ the whole town and the next town over.

    As if making him go away was going to erase all the mistakes they have made in their life.

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