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December 2010 Moms
Watching the snow <br>
"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for"
Need to vent...people & their comments LONG
I just don't get why people feel the need to comment on other people's business and also on things that they have no idea about because they are not in that position. For example, getting DD's ears pierced. I don't understand why anyone would a) care about what someone else is doing with their child and b) would say anything when they themselves don't have a daughter and are not in that situation.
I guess it really annoys me that anyone would feel the need to 'judge' anyone else and their parenting. I personally would have done DD's already but the dr. said I have to wait til 6mths. I think doing it now while she doesn't know what the pain is, it's quick and she can be soothed easier is better than her being older and knowing the pain and then being upset about it a lot longer. Also, I like that I will be in charge of cleaning them, to wait til she's 'old enough to care for them' sounds ridiculous to me because it could mean a higher chance of infection.
Another thing is the whole formula feeding vs. breast feeding deal. Come on, as long as my baby is fed, taken care of and happy, why do people really care how that is happening. Does it really matter that much to them whether or not my breast or a bottle is feeding my baby? Do they really have that little going on in their life that they need to aggravate me with stupid comments? I always say that people who breast feed, good for them. I think it's great that they decided to do that for how ever long but for me it's not the way, I have never ever wanted to even try and my children are just fine 
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Anyway, I don't judge other people on their parenting and what they want to do with their children because it does not affect me and I couldn't really care less but I am so sick of people's comments and need to judge what I do with my children.
Ok vent over, thanks for listening )
Watching the snow <br>
"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for"
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Re: Need to vent...people &amp; their comments LONG
I totally agree. Both of what you say really irritates me. The ear piercing thing...my kid, my choice. In my culture and family, this is what we do. I think it looks adorable and can't wait to get hers done. She actually already has 2 pairs of earrings that my parent's bought for her...one when she was born, then a diamond pair for Christmas. I'd rather do it now, when she doesn't understand and won't fuss with them.
The BF vs FF debate...I tried BFing both kids...hated it. I was FF and turned out ok. Doesn't bother me one bit whether a child is BF or FF as long as that child is fed.
Another thing that irritates me is the co-sleeping argument. Matthew slept with us from birth up until Emma was born (until he got his big boy bed, now he doesn't want anything to do with our bed). Emma, on the other hand, refuses to lay in bed with us, however, if she would want to I would totally let her.
I BF and if I had a daughter I would not let her get her ears pierced until she was at least 12+ (and probably with her own money or as a bday/xmas gift), but I totally agree with your post! There are reasons to BF and reasons to FF. There are reasons to pierce and not to pierce. People need to realize it's the parents' decision!
I might discuss these things with my friends but I won't bring it up with someone who has already made parenting decisions that differ from mine.
I have to agree...people are allowed to parent their child however they want, and I would really only give my opinion if someone asked (ie, on this board or something) or if I honestly felt that someone was doing something dangerous.
For instance, at the store about a month ago, this very young mother gave her very young child popcorn (he seemed to be about 7 or 8 months old). I had to say to her that I had heard that popcorn was a choking hazard for babies. She actually hadn't heard that, and thanked me and took away the popcorn (she probably cursed me off as soon as I left though!)
But as for your run of the mill things like bfing or ffing, or c-sections, or whatev, it's whatever floats your boat! It's no skin off my back the way people choose to parent, you know?
Edit: Incidentally, I hope you weren't offended by me calling earpiercing for a baby "old school Italian" in a previous post. My family IS old school Italian, (well, you know, you met me!) and I was just commenting how I was surprised that I actually DIDN'T get my ears pierced until I was 8! I definitely don't judge your decision to do it!
This, for sure!
No, definitely not offended by that. My dad was :old school Italian" and we did things a certain way but of course I don't expect everyone to do things that same way
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"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for"