After your first, how soon were you ready for another?

April4bride · March 2011

I mean, this is hard! I originally wanted 3 kids, now I'm wondering if one is plenty...lol. Then I go back and forth though because I'd love for her to have siblings. How does one decide? How did you know? I'm 32, if we have any more I have to have 'em before I'm 35 because hubby and I worry about risks going up after that. I mean, I know with medicine today plenty of women can have healthy babies after 35 but my husband is a worry wart. Okay fine so am I. lol. Do I really need to think about this now? Our first is 8 months old. Thoughts? What are you thinking as far as having more?

MNgirl326 · March 2011

We know we will be having 1-2 more kids, but we are going to wait until LO is a year and a half to start trying again.

We are not in a rush. Definitely not jumping on the TTC bandwagon yet.

shelleyannr · March 2011

I started thinking about it each time my baby reached 6 months. All 3 kiddos are almost exactly 2 years apart (just under). It is tough but also fun having the kids close in age. I was 30, 32 and 33 when I had each of the kiddos. We, too, wanted to have them before I reached 35 and DH is a few years older than me.

erincon8 · March 2011

Some days I'm one and done. The next day I want to be pregnant asap. My sister just got engaged so I'm thinking I will get pregnant after her wedding which is spring 2012.

kalu10 · March 2011

I feel the exact same way, almost word for word what you wrote. We definitely want at least two kids so that DS will have a sibling. After that, we will see. Like you, I initially wanted three. Some days though, I swear I can barely handle one Smile

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hurricanelydiaa · March 2011

There are definitely days when I think, "this is so hard, I could never do this again!" But overall I love being a mother. I would love to have one more. (Maybe two) However, DH and I plan to wait a few years before TTC. After I'm done breastfeeding I want my body to myself for a little bit. Also, I'm just about to start a new job so now is definitely not the time to be having another baby.

CamFam · March 2011

I definitely want 2 or 3. My husband wants 2. We'll start trying for #2 next May.

caymanbride · March 2011

I wanted another one almost immediately. From the time DS1 was born until he was about 9 months old, I wanted another one badly. Then when he was 9 months old, I was suddenly completely content with just him. We tried again a few months later, and got pregnant when he was 15 months old. My boys are exactly 2 years (and 2 days) apart, and I love it. Can't wait to do it again! I'm also 32, so I feel the same way...sooner is better, and my DH is almost 42.

IsaacA · March 2011

I always wanted 3 kids. DH wants two. So, we'll have 3 since I won't get my tubes tides and DH hates condoms.

Anyways... I'm 23 so I'm not in a hurry. But I want my kids closer in age. I think we're going to start trying agan when DS is one. & Have them close to two years apart.

JJ1973 · March 2011

I'm 38, so the question for me is a bit more pressing than if I were in my early 30's. I will attest to the fact that it is not a death sentence to have a child in your late 30's, btw lol:) Yes - the risks go up for various things, but it isn't crazy. I was more fearful re: the risk of miscarriage. My career is a huge consideration, given handling my career with one is tough...two would be even more of a juggling act. We are still going back and forth. If you figure it out, let me know. I'm at a complete loss. I love the idea of building a family (giving LO a sibling), but I've seen a number of families go a bit "crazy town" with two (arguments, more stress, chaos). Maybe I just happen to know some people who aren't balancing it well...not sure. But, it scares me a little sometimes. We're so happy right now...I feel like we're gambling with trying for another.

esthergreenwood14 · March 2011

I am so back and forth almost daily on this and DH really wants to wait. There is a huge part of me that wants to get pregnant right.this.very.second and another that is one and done. For the time being we are waiting for financial reasons, so who knows?

MrsSR · March 2011

We aren't having more.

MommyStemple · March 2011

I to am back and forth every other day. Some days I tell my husband that we couldn't make a more perfect baby and I'm done and other days I'm ready to start trying right now. But my DH has said that we won't even start talking about another one until DD can ask for a sibling. Our babysitter (who wants us to have another one) has been working with Jessa to say "Baby Brother".

smelly7378 · March 2011

It is a hard decision! We originally wanted 3 or 4 but my first birth experience was not pleasant so I wasn't sure I even wanted any more so I waited and enjoyed the time with my daughter. Then I had a miscarriage in 09 and I really wanted to be done but we kept trying and then I had my son. But his pregnancy was worse then my daughters I had GD and PIH and he was delivered 5 weeks early. So now I am definitely done! I love the age difference I have my daughter is independent and a great helper. Sometimes she thinks she is his mother Big Smile

driveshorses · March 2011

Ours are 8.5 years apart. I'm 30 now, and DH is 27, we are d-o-n-e. Done.

susie985 · March 2011

I'm only 25, but like you, I originally wanted 3 kids. However, DD is such a handful, I don't know if I could handle anymore especially if it is another one like DD. I love her more than anything, but damn! Then again I don't want DD to be an only child. I also would love to be pregnant again and hopefully experience a vaginal delivery next time. I think I will end up having at least one more, but not for a few more years. DH says if the next one is a boy, we can be done, but if it is another girl, he would like a third. I might change my mind back to one and done though tomorrow when I'm tearing my hair out because DD won't nap, lol!

PhilsWife07 · March 2011

I got pregnant with DS2 when DS1 was 15 months old and it was and still is hard (though it's progressively getting easier). I wouldn't space them any closer than that. We're planning on a third and we will wait until DS2's second birthday to TTC that baby.

Ruby_Soho · March 2011

I was ready when DS turned 8 weeks. It took till he was 3.5 months for DH to decide he was ready too. We've been not preventing since then but since I'm EBF I have no idea when I might get pregnant. We would both like it to happen soon though!

DH thinks he only wants 2. I would love about 6. Financially though, 2 makes more sense. It would suck to not be able to afford gear and season passes to go snowboarding each year (we live 40 mins from the skifield!). But then families aren't about common sense, they're all about heart, so we'll just wait and see what happens Smile

Tassie06 · March 2011

It will be a couple years until im ready to start trying again. I want to enjoy the time i have with this one before i have another.

kvanko · March 2011

I just logged on here to see if anyone else was thinking about this... and heres the post. Perfect timing!

I think I was ready for #2 right after my DD was born. I'm 27 and DH is 32. We want to have 3-4 and would like them pretty close together. I want to make sure that physically I'm in good shape. My doctor told me it takes approx a yr for your body to recover from a pregnancy. I've heard otherwise tho, so I'm thinking in the next couple of months we may start trying again. I promised myself I would get right back into shape after I had my daughter or I wouldn't have more right away. The weight loss was pretty easy and the older I get the more difficult it gets I hear.

So excited to start this process all over again!

chelseamillermusic · March 2011

Immediately... it was my first question when i woke up after almost dying during delivery.. can I have more?

After being told for most of my life i couldnt even have babies,, I want to have as many as my body will allow. I would have been happy if dh wanted to start trying again as soon as the doctor said ok. We are waiting for my brothers baby to be born in sept and then will start trying for #2.

I guess Even with how hard it is sometimes I know that life changes you in its own way to ba able to handle everything that comes your way.. this is the best job Ive ever had... and I'm ready for the challenges that new babies will bring,

wifeandmama · March 2011

I started getting the itch when my first was about a year... but then I flipflopped a ton. Originally, we were going to try again when he was 1.5 but I wasn't ready yet so we waited 2 months and got pregnant the first time.

We're unsure about a #3 at this point. Some days, I know for sure we'll have another and other days I question my sanity wanting another!!

Dobie_Mama · March 2011

I wasn't even sure I wanted another until DD #1 was a year old. We started trying when she was about 20mos. We're done now.

Aloe0l · March 2011

I'm ready for another one now. But, I haven't asked DH's opinion on the matter yet. I know when we first got married we discussed having 3-4 kids. I figure it's easier to get the hard parts over with all at once, while they are still fresh in my mind. Seems like I'd forget too much if we waited to long.

hnmccormack · March 2011

DH and I want 3 or 4 children. I have been flip flopping about when I want to start trying again. Part of me wants to start trying now, part of me wants to wait. So DH and I have decided that we will wait till January 2012. DD will be almost a year and half old by then, so she will be 2 years old by time the baby would be born. I want to keep them at least 2 years apart. I'm 25 and DH is turning 27 here soon so we are not in a big hurry. I would like to have all our kids before I'm 35.

LJR 84 · March 2011

I was ready right away. Well...more like 2 months post pregnancy.

BlueRidge8 · March 2011

We think we are one and done. She's great and we like our little family

Ardmhs83 · March 2011

We are even going to TTC until DS is 3 or 4. We need some time...lots of time! lol

KelzinBoston · March 2011

We wanted our kids 1.5-2 years apart. We got pregnant when DS1 was 9 months old, but lost that baby (they would have been 17 months apart, eek). It took us awhile to get pregnant again and our boys are 27 months apart...I really like this age difference!

I'm pretty sure we're done, but if we were to consider another baby at all...I would want a 2-3 year age gap.

Tippy05 · March 2011

If it were up to DH I'd be pregnant now! He wants 3-4 kids, and so do I. The only thing we're waiting for is for me to save up more vacation time at work so I can have another nice long maternity leave and I REALLY don't want a winter baby. Waiting to start trying until June or July would give us a March or April baby, which is perfect.

Daycare for 2 will be difficult financially, but I am SO ready to have more kids I can't wait! I loved, loved, loved being pregnant and think that although 2 under 2 would be trying, it's not impossible.

618mom22boys · March 2011

umm 10 years! I was young with my 1st, 18, so I was not planning on having anymore anytime soon! And I made sure that was not going to happen!

After DS2 we were ready once he hit 1. And I was pregnant when he was 15 months. This time if we have a 4th, it will not be for anther 3-4 years. I dont know what I was thinking having them that close in age!

MrsKellyT143 · March 2011

We waited awhile, DD was 4.5 when DS was born. I like that she is older and more indepedant! But I was also barely 26 when she was born so we were in no rush

Hopin4aBaby · March 2011

wifeandmama:

I started getting the itch when my first was about a year... but then I flipflopped a ton. Originally, we were going to try again when he was 1.5 but I wasn't ready yet so we waited 2 months and got pregnant the first time.

We're unsure about a #3 at this point. Some days, I know for sure we'll have another and other days I question my sanity wanting another!!

Exactly this!!

Angela814 · March 2011

I originally wanted kids 2 years apart, but then I didn't get pg right away, and I started a new career so timing just wasn't good. DD1 and DD2 are about 4 years apart, and I've been really happy with the spacing so far. I'm considering a #3. DH says we're done with 2. Right now I'm thinking if we do have #3, I'd want about a 3 year age gap, so I don't need to make any type of decision until DD2 is about 2 years old.

str8ota · March 2011

If it were up to me we would have started ttc at 8 weeks after dd was born but now that I can no longer have children biologically we have to wait until dd is 12 months before they will start showing our adoption profile to potential birth mothers. So not by choice 12 months.

GreysGirl · March 2011

I would like to starting trying again when DS is around 2, we may wait another year or so after that though for financial reasons. I also would like to spoil DS with as much attention as I can for awhile. I 100% want at least one more though.

astroMom · March 2011

Our original plan was 14 months. However, we are having a lot harder time than we thought. DS is a great kiddo, but I had a pretty rough recovery that I'm still dealing with! So, now I'm thinking 17 months at the EARLIEST, but DH & I have tabled the discussion for now.

We also feel like DS is SO good that we are tempting fate by having another bio. kid. We would probably foster and/or adopt either way. I am 31 & DH is 33, so we do feel some pressure. While I have a good career, this isn't a huge factor for us right now, as we don't have a fancy house or anything and could live off DH's salary if we had to do it.

ougrad1 · March 2011

I had all of my children at or over 35. Your risks really do not go up. I did CVS testing with all my children so, that's an option if you really are that concerned when the time comes. You have all the time in the world if children are that important to you! This isn't something you need to worry about-truly.

ETA-I really think 3-4 years is a great space for mom being able to manage effeciently and all the babies to get quality time/attention from the parents.

marta602 · March 2011

I don't know if we were really "ready," but we started TTC when DS was 14 months old. We had weaned just after 12 months and weren't sure how long it would take to pg again (it took us 9 months with DS.) We also had the 35 cutoff age in mind, and we wanted them somewhat close together. I was 31 when DS was born. For DD it only took us 1 months to get pg, so it was a little sooner than we had thought it would be. They are 5 days shy of being exactly 2 years apart.

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