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MIL problems-vent

verona_1999verona_1999
in March 2011 Moms
So we have told mil in the past that whenever we have the baby we do not want a lot of visitors.  She seemed to understand.  Especially because some of dh's cousins who we do not get along with were talking about coming up to visit...which I found really strange because we haven't talked to them in like a year.  So we found out we are being induced on Monday night, well dh told his mom today about it but he told her not to tell anyone that he would tell who he wanted to know.  And like we explained she may not even get to be in the room on Tuesday if i'm still in labor.  Well a few hours later she calls dh and says that everyone is over at her house and can she put him on speaker phone for him to tell everyone.  UM NO!  Especially because half of the people that were there were specific people we don't want to know!  And she knew this!  So dh told her no to just keep her mouth shut and she got all pissy and hung up.  If she keeps acting like this she will be lucky to even get to be at the hospital too.  I don't need this kind of drama.
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  • MicahAnn2009MicahAnn2009
    Sorry you MIL is excited and wanted your hubby to share with his family. Sorry, but you sound a little like a brat. I think you should be happy that she didn't just take it completely upon herself and tell everyone....I don't understand not wanting people at the hospital so maybe that's why I think you sound bratty. I could care less who shows up to show us some love. Between the nurse staff and my husband I feel like our visitor situation won't get out of control and if they want to sit at the hopsital then that's up to them....for all you know people could have "intentions" of coming but not show up, I just don't see why care so much who comes and who doesn't.....truley though, I am sorry your MIL upset you.
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  • MissYouDietCokeMissYouDietCoke

    Wow. um.  I completely disagree with PP's assessment of you being a brat.  But I'm not sure how to help out your situation, so I hadn't posted until now. 

     

    I totally understand not wanting to feel like you have a sell out crowd in the hospital. Who you see post-partum is entirely up to you as it is your child/delivery/experience, and it's not like you are trying to keep immediate family away!

     

     

    ETA: I'm glad your DH is on your side, too. 

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  • mrswhipmrswhip

    I agree.  I don't want the time when we're in the hospital to be like a spectator sport.  You don't get that time back.  I have a huge family and a really short list.  We're not seeing anybody other than our mom's for the first 12 hours and then only immediate family after that. 

    At our hospital, they have really tight security on the maternity wing.  Everybody has to check in and if your name isn't on the visitor list, you don't get in.  I'd just put a list together and give it to the nursing staff.  They deal stuff like that all the time. 

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