getting annoyed at negativity

EBathory997Wed74688 · March 2011

Anyone else getting negative vibes from people who already have kids/just older than you? I get it all the time. I plan on starting weight watchers again right out of the hospital and getting back into zumba full force to work off baby weight and I keep hearing you'll be too tired to do that for like months. I also have had perfect attendance at work for a few years but every one says oh that will change when you have a baby. How would anyone know how tired or not I would be? It also seems people are wishing a sick baby on me. Anyone else getting similar?

EBathory997Wed74688 · March 2011

just to clear up the child care issue - grandma at my house. Then I get that Grandma is going to need a break sometime. My mother offered before we asked.

Brooklyn2577 · March 2011

crysawhit:
I agree with you that negativity is annoying, but I think it's probably more so people are trying to warn you that your energy level probably won't be up to par for a few months.

Ditto this. I think people think they are probably offering you a PSA of what to expect - not necessarily how you will handle it.

DS goes to my parents house - I've still taken sick days to be with him. It's what kids do... get sick

caruso_60 · March 2011

This is why I don't share my plans with people. I got a lot of "just wait" from friends when I was pregnant with DS1. Which I found totally annoying. We all have different abilities and personalities, so what may look daunting to one person may be easy to another. I can't stand people who try to discourage other people from doing stuff. One of my friends actually laughed at me when I told her I wanted to have a med-free birth.

I work for myself from home, so I don't get to call in sick, but I would love to!

edens17 · March 2011

I get what you are saying. I think people can mean well but their approach just comes across as negative instead of constructive.

cookierlr1 · March 2011

caruso_60:

This is why I don't share my plans with people. I got a lot of "just wait" from friends when I was pregnant with DS1. Which I found totally annoying. We all have different abilities and personalities, so what may look daunting to one person may be easy to another. I can't stand people who try to discourage other people from doing stuff. One of my friends actually laughed at me when I told her I wanted to have a med-free birth.

I work for myself from home, so I don't get to call in sick, but I would love to!

This!!!!! I am going to go crazy if I keep hearing this statement! OP I understand what you are saying completely. I know people are trying to be helpful, but sometimes I really just wish they would stop! Quit telling me how I am going to feel/act/react! I am not you!!!! I've found it easiest to steer conversation away from baby for a while, just so I don't lose it on someone.

taitai07 · March 2011

cookierlr1:
caruso_60:

This is why I don't share my plans with people. I got a lot of "just wait" from friends when I was pregnant with DS1. Which I found totally annoying. We all have different abilities and personalities, so what may look daunting to one person may be easy to another. I can't stand people who try to discourage other people from doing stuff. One of my friends actually laughed at me when I told her I wanted to have a med-free birth.

I work for myself from home, so I don't get to call in sick, but I would love to!

This!!!!! I am going to go crazy if I keep hearing this statement! OP I understand what you are saying completely. I know people are trying to be helpful, but sometimes I really just wish they would stop! Quit telling me how I am going to feel/act/react! I am not you!!!! I've found it easiest to steer conversation away from baby for a while, just so I don't lose it on someone.

This annoys me too! No one ever says "Just wait...until your baby smiles at you for the first time; it's awesome!" It's always "just wait" until the negative stuff happens.

JuneBug0611 · March 2011

I was at the theater (live show) last night and the woman sitting next to me asked me about my due date. I told her I was due in mid-June and how I was hoping I would be up to going out mid-July because that would be the last performance of one of my favorite shows that I was really hoping to be able to go to. She told me that I wouldn't be able to go and would be completely overwhelmed for the first six months. I was so annoyed. I'm aware that I may not be up to a night out four weeks after delivery (or less if LO is late) -- obviously, I'm the one who brought it up! -- but her responding that I would be overwhelmed for six months was just ridiculous. Especially since she is a total stranger and knows nothing about me!

PocaLoca · March 2011

taitai07:
cookierlr1:
caruso_60:

This is why I don't share my plans with people. I got a lot of "just wait" from friends when I was pregnant with DS1. Which I found totally annoying. We all have different abilities and personalities, so what may look daunting to one person may be easy to another. I can't stand people who try to discourage other people from doing stuff. One of my friends actually laughed at me when I told her I wanted to have a med-free birth.
I work for myself from home, so I don't get to call in sick, but I would love to!
This!!!!! I am going to go crazy if I keep hearing this statement! OP I understand what you are saying completely. I know people are trying to be helpful, but sometimes I really just wish they would stop! Quit telling me how I am going to feel/act/react! I am not you!!!! I've found it easiest to steer conversation away from baby for a while, just so I don't lose it on someone.
This annoys me too! No one ever says "Just wait...until your baby smiles at you for the first time; it's awesome!" It's always "just wait" until the negative stuff happens.

ditto! everyone thinks they're an expert. I find that the only thing they are experts on is their own children.

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