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Need Some Reassurance - Long

tlc11934tlc11934 member
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I'm days away from having 2u2 and I am feeling extreme anxiety and guilt.  I call DD my best friend - we go everywhere together and have so much fun.  Now that DD2 is on the way any day, I'm starting to get really sad.  I feel like I'm "cheating" on DD1 and I can sense that she's getting nervous every time we talk about the baby. 

 I began washing her old clothes tonight in preparation from DD2's arrival and I feel guilty imagining DD2 in the same outfits.  My "big girl" is only 21 months and I feel like she's getting pushed to the side.  My husband and other family members are prepared to keep her occupied and feeling special during the first few months when DD2 needs me the most...but I can't help but feel jealous that my special time with DD1 will never be the same.

 I didn't expect it to be this difficult, but I'm feeling really sad right now.  I'm a pretty even keeled person who has not cried once during this whole pregnancy and I'm a big mess right now.  

 Please tell me someone on here understands how I feel, and please reassure me I'll get through these feelings.  How did you make your LO1 feel special when LO2 arrived?  How did you balance your time bonding with each of them?  TIA!

 

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Re: Need Some Reassurance - Long

  • g1princessg1princess

    So glad to see that someone else is feeling the exact same way I am!!!  Right now I have an almost 18 month old son, and my 2nd son is due in June.  Like you, my 1st son is MY EVERYTHING - MY BES FRIEND and I don't know how I'll be able to do this without feeling guilty.

     I'll be anxious to see if anyone has any advice on how to get through this :-(

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  • katykat17katykat17 member

    This is exactly how I felt before DD#2 was born. I was heartbroken for DD#1 and bawled when I had to leave her to go to the hospital to be induced with #2. I thought I was cheating DD#1 out of our special time together. Within hours after we got home though I could see things would be ok. Sure DD#1 wanted to be super lovey and show DD#2 I was her mama, I thought we would have such a hard tim but they love each other so much now.

     I think once LO is born the anxiety will lift! :)

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  • JackT1JackT1
    You are certainly not alone! I feel the same exact way and it breaks my heart. But... I try to think of DD as getting a sibling as a "gift" to her, otherwise I don't really have any advice because whenever I think about it too much I could cry too!
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