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lnrsmith09lnrsmith09
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Hi all! I'm 36 ttc #3. I had my first two from a previous relationship and have been married to my husband for a 1 1/2. We never considered having children because he was told when he was 15 that he would never be able to father children due to an accident and at 42 he never has. However, we decided a few months ago to seek out help for infertility and decided we would do most whatever it took to have a baby. After getting his SA, my husband was told that although his count was low his motility was good and everything looked pretty good and that we could possible concieve naturally and maybe we just havent hit the right time. So I guess my question is are we too old and are we kidding ourselves that this could happen??
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  • BostonGayGalBostonGayGal member

    The doctor has better info about your chances than internet strangers, but it certainly isn't out of the realm of possibility.  Best of luck to you!  If that is your doctor's advice, go for it and don't listen to the naysayers! 

    However, if you feel your doctor isn't taking your wants seriously, set up an appointment to discuss treatment or further testing options. 

    (edited because my response sounded mean and I didn't intend it to be mean) 



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  • happywifemomofonehappywifemomofone member
    Welcome!!!  No, you're not kidding yourself and it really could happen.  Encourage you to seek further testing though if 6 months goes by and you're not lucky enough to have BFP.  The older you get, the more the months count and they shouldn't be wasted.  We wait a year of TTC on our own......at it's hard not to think about the what if's if we had sought more intensive interventions earlier.  Good luck, sending baby dust your way!!
    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • CheezeFaceCheezeFace member

    Welcome.  I certainly hope you aren't too old; we are the same age and I'm trying to conceive my first. Without knowing yours or H's full medical history, the fact that you have had two healthy births before I would say your chances are very good.

    And when did 36 become old?  I don't feel old.  When did this happen?!??! :)

    ~Married 11/08~
    ~TTC since 01/09~
    ~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
    ~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
    ~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
    ~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
    ~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
    ~BFN - 02/11~
    ~IUI #1 03/15/11~
    BFP 3/28/2011
    Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
    Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
    Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.

    TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
    ~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger,  10/13 - BFN
    ~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13




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  • PecanSamPecanSam member

    I'm 38 and after having several tests done and everything coming back normal, our RE told us we have great chances of conceiving.

    You have a lot more testing to do for you before your Dr. can decide if it is an option for you or not.

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  • bluebabkabluebabka
    Have you been trying for 1 1/2? I think if the Dr says you can possibly concieve naturally go for it : ) Lots of women have success stories at that age naturally.
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  • lnrsmith09lnrsmith09
    Thanks everyone for the support and no I don't really feel old but ya know you just get so much discouragement if your over 35! We havent been trying seriously as we figured there was no way, but thinking back on it I don't think we were really hitting it right anyway. This month I started charting and taking bbt so we will see :)
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  • lnrsmith09lnrsmith09
    Oh and BostonGayGal you didn't sound mean. I'm assuming if the doctors say his numbers are something we can work with I should listen and not stress myself out but that is easier said than done!
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  • *Chicken**Chicken*

    Hi! I'm an 'old' poster who mostly lurks now but I wanted to post.

    I started TTC when I was 35 and it took exactly 3 years to get to the point I am now (pregnant).  Not that it will take that long for you but my main bit of advice would be to be aggressive.  If you start TTC now and in six months nothing has happened seek help by going to an Reproductive Endrocologist. 

    I didn't seek help soon enough with an RE, IMO. My OB started me on clomid and finally after two years, and 1 miscarriage later, I went to an RE and within 10months I was pregnant (not 10 months of straight trying, I had to take a break due to another miscarriage and another very minor issue not related to TTC).  RE's are better equipped for fertility issues. 

     Saying that, you could very well get pregnant right away which is not unheard of in women our age.  Smile

     

    Good luck.  This board is very helpful and supportive. 

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