pg ladies: would you give up your seat for an elderly person?

myst33 · March 2011

This is so silly and maybe my hormones taking over, but this really annoyed me today:

Dh and I stopped by starbucks on our way home from the mall. At first, there were no tables available, but while we were in line, we saw that someone was getting up. I quickly made my way to the table, then looked up and saw an older woman making her way towards the table. She threw her arms in complete annoyance that I had the nerve to sit there. It wasn't like I was trying to beat her there- I honestly didn't know that she was making her way there. I felt weird so I said that she could sit there and of course she quickly said "thank you". Her daughter then made her way past me and just said "thanks". I know I have no business complaining since I did offer the table, but then at the same time, I was like "wtf"? I think I would feel weird taking a seat from a hugely 9 mos pg woman if I were in their shoes (esp the daughter). I was immediately bitter after they sat down. We did end up finding another seat, anyway, so really no harm no foul.

I know this is totally stupid and dh didn't understand why I was even annoyed..I'm not sure why it bothered me so much either, but it did!

Jade1230 · March 2011

Tricky question...I'm sure I would feel the same way you did if that were to happen to me. Honestly, I'm not sure if I would give the seat up or not.

thebigmare · March 2011

Wouldn't it have been wonderful if someone else nearby had given up their seat so you AND the old lady could both have seats?

One of my coworkers says to me the other day that the computer chair I've been using all school year is actually his personal chair and he'd like to come by and get it. I was really taken back by this. Who takes a comfy chair away from a pregnant woman? I said that we could obviously switch chairs, but he said he didn't know of any spare chairs. At least, I pointed to my stomach and said, "Well if we can't find a chair to switch with, my due date is in 2 weeks. You can just have the chair then." He instantly apologized and said that he had no idea how far along I was and that yes, he could wait until then (hello, you haven't had your chair since September!). The best part is that his chair is not even that comfortable!!!! I prefer the school chairs!

LynsiBHM · March 2011

for me, it depends on how I was feeling and how the woman was acting. If I was having a good day and wearing comfy shoes, and the woman looked fragile and had a walker or something- then yes, i'd abolutely give up my seat.

If I was achy and swollen and she just looked like a regular latte-drinking Nana, no way!

total judgement call- can't say for sure without being there.

kilissa · March 2011

My husband says that after seeing me pregnant, the old lady would get the chair, lol. Apparently, I'm a little too able bodied for being about to pop.

MissYouDietCoke · March 2011

I'd totally give up the seat and wait for the next table. Or just get in the car and go home.

green bean · March 2011

no I probley would have just sat there and let her daughter find them a different place to sit , especially if you didn't even see her walking to the table , its not like you were racing her to the table , but of course Iam kind of bitchy even when not pregnant, if she had said something I probley would have had so not so nice thing to say back,

schirinos · March 2011

LynsiBHM:
for me, it depends on how I was feeling and how the woman was acting. If I was having a good day and wearing comfy shoes, and the woman looked fragile and had a walker or something- then yes, i'd abolutely give up my seat.
If I was achy and swollen and she just looked like a regular latte-drinking Nana, no way!
total judgement call- can't say for sure without being there.

Same here. I've had similar situations on the bus/tram where I sit down and can feel the glaring eyes of little old ladies. I once got up for this frail little lady that really was unsteady on her feet but what shocked that no one else would offer.

Being pregnant has been such a lesson in how people generally tune out the world around them.

ncbelle · March 2011

Since I have no "issues" with my pregnancy and I'm perfectly comfortable on my feet, it wouldn't bother me.

I'd have been annoyed that she was acting annoyed though ;-)

Twinkz · March 2011

I'd give it up but I still walk atleast a mile a day so standing doesn't phase me though in your situation, her assumption that I SHOULD give up the seat because she's edlerly, would have peeved me off.

BeetleLinz1125 · March 2011

Well it depends...if she looked pretty able-bodied I probably wouldn't give up my seat for her, but if she looked like she needed it more than me I would definitely let her have it...not every elderly person is in bad shape...my grandma is a yoga instructor. She would not expect to have a pregnant woman give up her seat.

melissar617 · March 2011

LynsiBHM:
for me, it depends on how I was feeling and how the woman was acting. If I was having a good day and wearing comfy shoes, and the woman looked fragile and had a walker or something- then yes, i'd abolutely give up my seat.
If I was achy and swollen and she just looked like a regular latte-drinking Nana, no way!
total judgement call- can't say for sure without being there.

This exactly!

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