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April 2011 Moms
How would you feel? (vent)
So, my husband just got back last night from a 2 week business trip to Phoenix (we live in Pennsylvania). I was so relieved to have him back b/c besides that I missed him, I've been exhausted after work lately and was glad to have him back to help out with chores and things. Well he just called me and said his boss asked him to go back to Phoenix on Sunday for another 8 days. He said he won't go if I tell him I don't want him to. He knows I'm not going to tell him no. I'm frustrated because I could really use some help around the house, stressed out because there is so much left to do before the baby comes (I just put the crib and dresser together myself last week, but I feel like there's too much left to do alone), I'm scared that LO will come early and I'll have to go to the hospital by myself (no family in the area), and I'm also really really jealous because it must be nice to go to sunny Arizona, stay in a hotel, and order room service or eat out for every meal. So now I'm sitting in my office trying not to cry while he waits for me to e-mail him a yes or no. Someone tell me I'm just being a brat so I grow up and get over it?
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Re: How would you feel? (vent)
Be honest with him. Tell him that you don't want to tell him no, but you need the extra help at home. Tell him that there is so much to do and you are having a hard time keeping up on your own.
I'd also be nervous about him being so far away so close to my due date. AZ to PA isn't a short plane ride home.
You are not being a spoiled brat at all.
I understand your frustration, DH travels a fair amount for work as well. However, if it's imperative to his business then he needs to go. Plus, it's better for him to do it now than closer to your due date. DH has stacked all of his trips during the next 3weeks, so he'll be home from April - June.
I also proposed a "working weekend" so he could help with the final to-dos. We did it last weekend and thankfully covered almost everything, which has taken the pressure off both of us.
I understand how you feel, and honestly I don't think you are being a brat about it. I have gone the whole pregnancy without DH, and the further along I have gotten the harder it has been for me, plus I am constantly worried about going into labor early. With him finally coming home soon I am getting relieved by the day.
If you want me to tell you, that you are being a brat so you will say yes for him to go, I will...but I really don't think you are, and I think your concerns aren't crazy.
psht, I feel jealous right now because H is hanging out at his cousins house and I'm home with DD who's been sick. I know I'd be jealous if he was in Arizona, work or no work.
But I agree, work is work. And I think you'll feel better if you make him work his butt off before he leaves. Feel better. And I hope the 8 days go fast.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
This. I'd be able to deal with the extra work around the house, but not having him be gone that far away. If you went into labor, it could easily take him 10 hours to get home by the time he gets to the airport, waits around for standby, etc. And that's assuming he doesn't have a connection or other airport delays. I'd be honest with him and tell him that's how you feel. If he really has to go, I agree with pps that said ask him for some extra help when he's in town.