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March 2011 Moms
mrsfrates
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Feeling pressure to have a baby
mrsfrates
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So my MIL decided to fly down last weekend when I wasn't even 39 weeks because she was so afraid of missing the birth of her first grandchild, which I totally get. Right now I am 1cm and 50% and have been for the past 5 weeks. I told her not to come yet since I haven't progressed any, but she was convinced that since I went into PTL at 33 weeks that LO would be early.
My DH has 2 half brothers whom she dragged out of school for two weeks and doesnt seem to mind that they are missing so much school. This is stressing me out! They are already not doing well in school at all and I feel like its added pressure on me to have LO so they dont miss so much school.
Anyways she comes over everyday asking if I'm having the baby and I just chuckle and say I dont know. She keeps telling me to do stuff to have this baby, which I have already tried all the OWT and nothing is working. She is putting a lot of pressure on me to have this baby before they leave next Friday. Hopefully LO comes on her own before than, so I dont feel guilty that they didnt come for nothing. But my Dr. only induces after 41 weeks, which is fine by me!
Sorry for the LONG vent! I just needed to get this off my chest.. It's giving me anxiety!
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Re: Feeling pressure to have a baby
I would cork my vag so baby couldn't come out just to spite her. lol
On a more serious note though, you told her not to come so don't feel guilty if LO doesn't make an appearance before she leaves. You need to remind yourself that this is your baby, and everyone and their uncle is allowed to be excited- but in the end is YOUR special time.. and worrying about other people too much is going to rob some of your attention away from the 'special-ness'. Try to visualize it as if you're turning the volume down on the TV (tuning out MIL), to focus on your conversation on the phone (your experience with DH and baby). That's why I try to do.
Good luck!
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This EXACTLY. My MIL is an idiot. Don't feel guilty! Its suppose to be all about you, DH & the baby
Wow. That's a lot of unfair pressure to put on you! Ridiculous that she took the kids out of school to come visit when chances are good you wouldn't have delivered. Try not to let her make you feel bad (I know, easier said than done). You told her to wait and she didn't listen. This is completely a mess of her own making.
Your baby will arrive at just the right time, and it's her own fault if she misses it. I would kind of hope that she does. That is the spiteful teenager inside me talking!
WOW! tell her to back the F off! Sorry she's putting you through that! As a mother, she should know that you have very little control over when it happens!
Just to spite her, I hope you go to 41 wks
if you can stand it, of course!
Make her realize that the more pressure and stress she puts you through...the least likely LO will be willing to come out. Babies like to come out when every thing and everyone is relaxed.
Good luck!