RUDE pregnancy comments from co-irker (long)

pinkflowersapril07 · October 2008

OMG, first let me say that I have just about had it. She has to be the rudest woman that I've ever met. To give you a background on her: She is in her 50's, never been married (was stood up @ alter 3 x), lives alone w/cats, and work is her only outlet. She has NEVER had children & openly tells you how she 'disposed' of them when she was younger (obviously having an or several abortions). She thinks babies are ugly!!! Yet, she claims to be SO religous! She actually has a bumper sticker that says "Got Jesus?" Yet, she is spiteful and hateful.

Ok, so I was on bedrest during the first & some of the 2nd trimester due to spotting. I come back to work about 20 weeks. She immediately starts asking me stupid questions. But I was good, grinned & bared it to just 'keep peace'. But lately, she is being outright spiteful & attacks me w/comments. She commented that I get my hair colored. So what? I let that go. She commented that I drink decaf (she assumed it was 100% caff) but even if it was, SO WHAT?! That is MY business. Then today she says to another coworker "Did you know that women over 30 age big time once they have a baby?"

Ok, ok. She looks like a wicked witch! She has LONG salt & pepper knarley hair, a long pointed nose, bright yellow teeth from smoking THREE packs a day, and a big scar on her chin. ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME?!

Sorry I had to vent. I am soooo ticked off it's sick. Then, she turns around & starts PRAYING???!!! What a freak.

Summerstarr2 · October 2008

OMG! Can you report her rudeness to HR?

rosebud78 · October 2008

She sounds like a nightmare, a horribly bitter and unhappy person. The best way to deal with those people is to smile and blow them off. For example, the coffee thing, just rub it in (even if it's decaf), say "It makes the baby kick like crazy!!" give a big smile, and walk away. And then vent to us, of course, who we'll confirm for you: what a witch!!! Sorry you have to deal with her on a daily basis, UGH.

pinkflowersapril07 · October 2008

I did ask to be moved b/c I just cannot let this roll of my back any longer. She actually asked me if I was 'grossed out to have an alien growing inside me'!!! WTF?! My boss is male & he is trying his best to see that I am NOT in the tolerable mood for this. Esp since she is KNOWN as the company Coo coo bird. If you saw what she looked like, I"m sure you'd be flabberghasted that someone w/her features would attack others.

rosebud78 · October 2008

OK - those kind of comments, the "alien" one, should definitely be reported to HR. That is NOT OK. I'm sorry.

pinkflowersapril07 · October 2008

Thank you girls for your comments/opinions. That really helps me. Others that heard her just tell me to not let it get to me. But they don't understand how it has effected me. This isn't just a once in awhile occurrence, it's daily! Not only that, but when I had a m/c last year, she sought me out to say the most unforgivable comment ever! But after I recovered from my depression, I decided not to hold onto any bad feelings from my m/c. This pregnancy & baby means EVERYTHING to me & my DH, I'm quite sure you ladies can relate. I just do not get how miserable ppl actually go out of their way to bring you into their horrific circle of pathetic-ness.

I'm too hormonally sensitive this past week. I just wish I could quit right now. I CANNOT stand this place.

justgnat · October 2008

I would definitely talk to her supervisor of HR about her. That has GOT to be considered harrassment.

Redlass13 · October 2008

She sounds like the Wicked Witch from Wizard of Oz!! HORRIBLE!! I sounds like she's launching her own poor self-image onto you. Sorry to get all psychological but if she really felt good about herself, she would see only goodness and beauty in you! I would just laugh off everything she says, if you can. And if there is someone in management you can confide in without causing a big stir, I would do that too. It's becoming borderline harrassment at this point.

Piad1 · October 2008

Sounds like you have been patient enough with her. I would just say something really mean to get her off my back. Like, the next time she says something nasty to you, you can say "now I see why you were left at the altar 3 times" or something like that. It's mean, but I bet that will shut her up for good.