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April 2011 Moms
stephanie_shoe
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Why Am I So Annoyed By This?
stephanie_shoe
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So one of my best friends just had her baby a month ago...so we were obviously pregnant at the same time, and with my April 1 due date and her Feb 8 due date, we were only 6-ish weeks apart.
Although she has known my due date, everytime I send her a pregnancy pic or an update on the baby, she is always like "enjoy your last few months..." Hello? You mean my last few weeks?
And when I gave her the newest update that this baby is now a March baby, it was the same thing...hope your last couple of months go well.
Even though we were always basically in the same trimester, she would talk and give me advice and say things like "oh, just you wait until you're in your second, third, etc. You'll feel _______." I always wanted to tell her "biznatch, I'm not in my first trimester." I don't know why her comments bother me so much. I think I'm just crabby and irritable from being pregnant!
Stephanie Hsu
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Re: Why Am I So Annoyed By This?
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I have one of those "just you wait!"-ers in my life, too. Except we're due the SAME WEEK! It's my husband's cousin's fiancee (try to follow me here), so we're not close friends or anything, but anytime I talk to her about LO she is telling me "just you wait until..." It is beyond annoying because she's not even really ahead of me milestone or stage wise. And all of the things she's "just you wait"ed me on never happened to me. Because we're having completely different pregnacies. She is a miserable person and is 10x more miserable pregnant. I have aches and pains and discomforts like most pregnant ladies here, but I still LOVE being pregnant. So when she's getting on my nerves and I see one of her "I HATE being pregnant..blah blah" facebook posts I usually post a little something about how much I love having my LO inside of me. It's childish, I know, but it makes me feel better. (If it makes it any less childish, I usually tell her I'm sorry she's feeling that way.)
Sorry I hi-jacked your rant. Ha. With DH away I tend to over-talk when I have an audience.
There is another girl I know (not really a friend) who exclaimed loudly, as if something was wrong, that she couldn't BELIEVE I could still wear my wedding rings and wear heels. Because in her past pregnancies she couldn't, so it makes it humanly impossible. I just told her "well, I haven't gained that much weight..." knowing full well that she gained about 50 pounds. I know, I'm a total ***.
Ha ha ha...sort of reminds me of my MIL and my SIL - throughout this pregnancy they were saying things like "Oh, just you wait until you're really pregnant, then you won't be so confident" etc. It made me wonder, when exactly am I officially pregnant enough?
I have to keep all of these little frustrations in mind, because now my best friend is pregnant and due in October - I don't want to ever talk down to her or make her feel as frustrated as some people made me feel!!!
I thought the same thing after my first pregnancy. I got so tired of the down-talking and the "you just waits." I try really really hard not to do that with other pregnant women or people with babies younger than mine.
And OP, I have a very similar person in my life - her DD was born 6 weeks before Drew and she always talked as if she was so far ahead of me. She remained that way through almost their entire first year of life - every thing her daughter did she would flaunt and give advice and act as if she was this motherhood guru. By the time they were seven or eight months old I basically stopped hanging around her b/c it annoyed me so much.
She's backed off a little now - I think mostly because her DD walked so late (that really threw her) and I got pregnant again before her - which I could care less about but bothers the heck out of her. Now she's about six weeks behind me (due in May). She actually announced her pregnancy first (we waited a long time). I really enjoyed the moment that I told her I was PG too and the look on her face when I told her my due date. :-)
I hate people that are always telling me "just you wait.." DH and I have a couple we are friends with and their daughter is 6 and they say it ALL the time, but their daughter is not my DD and our parenting styles are totally different so I get so irritated that they are convinced we will have the same exact issues they had. I make sure I never say that to my pregnant friends because I know it drives me crazy and just because I have one baby doesn't make me an expert on their kid.
I also have a friend who is due a few days after me and she has been miserable her whole pregnancy (she is normally miserable anyway but its amplified now). She complains constantly and is convinced she is more uncomfortable than I am. I always ask how she is feeling and she has never once asked me because she assumes she feels worse. I am the one who is pregnant while taking care of a toddler, not her so I could find my fair share of things to complain about, but I would hate to look back on my pregnancy that way so I don't. So annoying.
I hate it when people act like they are "Pregnant Woman of the Year" or the all knowing person of pregnancy. It drives me nuts when they give you all sorts of "Well, you just wait..." comments... I appreciate the honest to goodness advice and encouragement and hope that I don't come across cocky if I ever try to do this to any of my newly preggo friends...
My good friend from high school did this with our first kids and it hasn't stopped 2 years later... Our boys are about 6 months apart and I can't stand to hang out with her anymore it's so bad. She assumes that every kid will do exactly what hers does and if mine doesn't he's not as "gifted" as her son.
Oh - and she also discovered the cure to morning sickness - it's keeping your stomach full. Llike no one ever thought to eat before.