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I feel bad but......

daniellems2003daniellems2003
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My SIL is having another baby and this is baby #2 for her, she already has a DD. She already has all baby "stuff", and doesn't in my opinion need anything.

I was talking to her on the phone today, and she said she would like to borrow my pack n play, and bassinette. Both things she bought me for my shower. When I know she has both of these things and they are in excellent shape.

We plan on having another baby in about 2 years, so I'd rather not let anyone borrow things like that. I'd feel bad having my next child use something that has been through 2 other kids.

Do I have to let her borrow these things because she bought them? How do I say no?

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Re: I feel bad but......

  • ShanJosh777ShanJosh777 member

    No, you don't HAVE to let her borrow them just because she bought them for you.  But I don't have any advice on how to say no.

    I would probably let her borrow them.  Baby #2 isn't really going to care if 2 other babies used his PnP, or if only 1 did.

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  • ugabrat@yahoo.comugabrat@yahoo.com
    No! Tell her you are still using them.
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  • MrsGo4HockeychickMrsGo4Hockeychick member

    I'd ask her what happened to hers. Are you still using yours?

    Personally, I wouldn't borrow out the pack n play until my DD is too big for it, because we will use it when she goes to my sister's or mom's and will need to nap. 

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  • carrann82carrann82 member
    Yeah I would ask her what happened to all the stuff she has.
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  • Buckets of MoonbeamsBuckets of Moonbeams
    No, you don't have to let her borrow them.  That's called Indian giving, SIL!  I'd just say, you're planning on another baby in the immediate future and don't want to let those things go.  Or if it was me, I'd just keep ignoring her.  But I'm a bad communicator and don't like my SIL who lives 3000 miles away at all so I wouldn't worry about trying to remain friendly or anything.
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  • iHeartJoeiHeartJoe
    If she already has them why does she want to borrow yours? That seems odd to me. I wouldn't loan out my pnp anytime in the near future bc it will continue to be useful, but personally if someone needed our bassinet I wouldn't mind loaning that out.
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  • racegirl723racegirl723 member

    I would tell her you are still using the PNP. Even if you aren't at the moment, if you travel at all or go to visit a relative, you will use it.  I would probably let her borrow the bassinette, but I think it would be appropriate to ask her what happened to her stuff.

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