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2nd Trimester
A much needed vent...
So, my husband and I had been going through some rough parts in our lives when we decided to spend a week apart just to clear our heads... we came back together a week later. We spent this week apart in January when I was 14 weeks pregnant and I stayed with my parents. His mother, my mother-in-law, has now decided that the child i'm carrying isn't ours and DNA tests need to be done. She also said that she needed to approve of me coming back before I did... I thought we were married,and adults? Am I crazy for being upset?! Someone please tell me i'm not. My hormones are at their peak and I just don't know how to 'let her in' to our daughter's life when she's born. AHHHH!
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Re: A much needed vent...
Just when you think you've seen all the nutty MIL's, another one comes along.
What happens to people's brains? Are they overexposed to hydro lines?
Wait, I'm confused why MIL is even involved -- what did you mean by "coming back"? Coming back in her son's life ... or coming back as in, you live with your MIL?
Unless I'm missing something, MIL has nothing to do with this. As long as things are good with you and your hubby, you shouldn't even listen or entertain her crazy rants. It's disrpectful, how dare she, don't you dare get a DNA test, and feel free to cut her out of your child's life since she doesn't want anything to do with your baby without a DNA test anyway! And, if even for a moment your DH pressures you to get a DNA test to appease your MIL, consider whether you want to be with someone like that.
I agree that this is between you and your husband, your MIL needs to butt out. Your husband, if he disagrees with the need for a DNA test, needs to stand up to his mother and in a respectful way tell her to MIND HER DAMN BUSINESS. If he agrees with his mother or is letting her persuade him to pressure you for a test, get one, make sure THEY pay for it, and make them both look like idiots.
The question of whether or not you live with MIL is an important one because as another poster said, she has say over who lives in her home. If you do live with her, perhaps you and the hubby need to seek other arrangements.
Then your MIL is ridiculous. Don't even waste time thinking about it -- she's just ranting, just leave it. I would only really worry if your husband asked you to test. That would be so disconcerting ...