The dilation question creeps me out...

Phillychickadee · March 2011

So folks have been asking me if I am dilated at all yet, and it creeps me out!
Coworkers, BIL, neighbors, etc. have all asked me how I am feeling and when I think baby is coming and then they have followed up by asking me if I am dilated at all yet.

Umm, ewww. I do not want these folks thinking about my innards like that. Random folks on the internet that don't know me at all is one thing, but people I see on a daily basis is quite another.

Has anyone else been asked this and am I the only one to get creeped out by it?

LifetimeOfLove · March 2011

I've been asked by some of the older ladies I work with. It really doesn't bother me personally. It is just part of the whole process and they are just so excited for DH and me that they CONSTANTLY are asking me baby related questions. Now if I guy asked me this Indifferent

I'd be creeped out! Stick out tongue

on_the_move · March 2011

I haven't gotten the dilation question yet, but even people asking about contractions seems a little strange. It is too much to explain to them that yes you can have contractions that aren't leading directly to labor. I would just tell them there isn't much progress yet, even if you are dilated to 9cm!

1Mrs.Jones · March 2011

Yes!! Great post!! This creeps me out too!

These two married men at work have asked me if I feel like my body is ready to have the baby. They have children, so they probably know the basics. Do they want me to tell them if I lost my MP or had my bloody show?!?! I never know what to say.

FIL asked the same thing. I just said that the baby had a mind of her own already, just like her parents, and we will have to wait and see what she decides to do.

But yeah! EW!

lovesBup · March 2011

LifetimeOfLove:
I've been asked by some of the older ladies I work with. It really doesn't bother me personally. It is just part of the whole process and they are just so excited for DH and me that they CONSTANTLY are asking me baby related questions. Now if I guy asked me this I'd be creeped out!

You mean like your FIL? Yeah.. that happened to me this morning.. I guess FI told him about it when they had spoken on the phone. I stopped by to pick up a few things and he says to me "So Neil says you're starting to open up in there?" Uh.. yeah.. Creepy McCreeper pants.. thanks for asking Huh?

So yes, it irks me when people ask me if I'm dilated. I don't really think it's anyone's business. I get that people get excited about ladies having babies, but why does pregnancy make people feel like it's ok to ask way too personal questions? I think it's rude. I wouldn't ask Mary Meatball how many pounds she had lost, and what she was eating every day if I knew she was on a diet you know?

thebigmare · March 2011

I haven't been asked the dilation question but my coworkers act as if the baby could come flying out of me at any moment. I'm also starting to get emails from out of town friends wondering if I've had the baby. Believe me people, when I have the baby, you'll know. I've actually been updating my facebook, so facebook friends for the most part haven't been asking, although I got a "Are you excited?" message today. Got to love those. I kept reminding myself that everyone is just really excited and they are just trying to be supportive. They don't know that everyone is asking me the exact same questions.

Oh and my dad says to me today, "Guess what today is?" And I reply, "Madri Gras?" and he says, "No, 2 weeks to your due date!" Thanks Dad. I didn't already know that.

snowybride08 · March 2011

Yeah, I've had people ask me that; mostly older ladies I work with. Also my assistant principal keeps asking me how much weight I've gained. It makes me super mad. Why does she care? She's super snarky, too, about how I'll never be in the same shape as I was before. Like she knows. Grr.

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