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Dislike my OB right now

earmuffs03earmuffs03
in March 2011 Moms

Let me begin by saying this is a vent, I understand I haven't even hit my due date yet....

I went into my appointment knowing my OB would strip my membranes if I was dilated....which I have not been last 2 times. Again of course I'm not dilated Crying so she couldn't strip my membranes. Last week I had seen the other OB in the practice cause my OB was out. I had asked her what her policy on "inducing" was and she was more than happy to discuss this with me. So when I brought up what our next step would be if I was not dilated on my next appt (which is my due date) all she says is "the board of American pediatrics requires certain guidelines to induce labor, and one of them is being at a certain score and your score is zero" So I'm so discouraged at this point I say to her "so are we talking I can go to 44 weeks" of course I was being a little flippant. All she says is something about never seing a women go that long, and I could go to 42 weeks and it will happen when it will happen...blah blah. I would just like to have a simple convo about what she usually does in situations like I am in and talk about what needs to happen in order for her to induce....

 I'm glad my DH was there because I just starting crying on the way to the car, I understand that I'm not at my due date and the baby is healthy and so am I but it's so discouraging when your not dilating and you feel like there is no end in sight. 

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Re: Dislike my OB right now

  • jayellekayjayellekay member
    Keep your chin up--I have my 39-wk appointment tomorrow, and I may be in the same boat as you. I know it's really hard right now, but just know that it will happen when baby is ready...or when you hit 42 weeks. Stick out tongue I don't know any traditional OBs that will let you go past 42 weeks or so. Also remember that you can go from zero to 10 cm in a matter of hours...hopefully our babies will be here soon!
    Jimmie, mama to Zoey (March 2011)
    Losses 5/13, 8/13, and 3/14. 
    Expecting another GIRL! Carter Grace due on 12/25.

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  • erikaautumnerikaautumn
    Aw, hang in there.  Don't hold it against your OB... she is doing her job.  It would be really irresponsible to induce you if your body is showing no signs of being ready... it would only lead to a C-section.  Dilation can change at any time... you don't have to be dilated for weeks ahead of time.  It is frustrating, I know.  Try to do all the old wives tales to induce labor... it will at least make you feel like you're in control of something.  I was making hardly any progress either and my hubby and I started having sex quite a bit... I really think it made a difference in effacing my cervix, at least.  Your baby will come, guaranteed!  :)  
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  • MissYouDietCokeMissYouDietCoke

    I totally broke down in the car at the end of my 39 week appointment, so don't feel badly about that.  However, my OB had been pretty up front about when she'd schedule and induction, so I KNEW there was an end. I was still really frustrated that I was 1. still pregnant, and 2. my body wasn't doing what it was supposed to be doing!

     

    Common practice is that you'll at least be induced between 41-42 weeks as that's when the placenta starts to not be a healthy place for your little one.  SO, there IS an end in sight, even though you don't know what day it is. 

    Baby Boy Born 3.15.11. 8lb 9oz, 21.75in. 6 month stats: 20lb 11oz (92%tile), 30.12in.(100%tile - who knew it went over 99th? Which means 100% of other 6 month olds are shorter than mine!)
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  • ncbellencbelle member
    Sorry you are discouraged but your OB is right to not talk induction at this point.  It's very normal to go "late" - try mentally telling yourself that you are going to 42 weeks.  And try to relax!  Stress does a great job of telling your body to NOT go into labor so the more ramped up you are, the less likely your body is going to kick into gear.


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  • earmuffs03earmuffs03
    Thanks Ladies you are all so very nice and encouraging. I wish I wasn't such a control freak and could let nature take it's course. At least I have my CSI marathon, a box of delicious girl scout cookies and my comfy bed to make me feel better  Sleep
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  • mrsfratesmrsfrates member
    I'm the same. I have been 1 and 50% for the past 5 weeks. This morning at my appt the same.. It is really discouraging, even when they tell you it could "still happen at anytime". Yeah, well it sure doesn't feel that way! I feel like I'm going to have to be induced at 41 weeks, which is when my practice does it.
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