BM rave regarding Child support

simplegirl226 · March 2011

Little backstory: my DH pays BM $220 a month plus we split all the costs of extra stuff (we have shared custody have them 50% of the time). There is no court order for this and everything was going smoothly until BM decided that she wanted to take us to court to get more money. We all sat down and talked about it and she promised me that it would not be more then $500 a month.

Anyway she just got the court order and it said we would have to pay $1550 a month. Holy crap. We would only be able to pay child support and our house payment and thats about it. Well she thought that was crazy also and asked if she could come over last night and talk about.

We all sat down (me, DH, BM and her DH) and talked about it and she agreed to stop the child support stuff through the court and only have us double what she is getting paid now. I was kind of shocked b/c most people would see that number from the court and jump on it b/c they want the money.

So anyway we are writing something up and probably going to go through a lawyer to have it legal and then all is done with that until the oldest graduates in 4 yrs. I am so happy to be done with that and I am so happy that she was willing to work with us and not take us for all we had.

loriedy · March 2011

WOW! That is a lot of $$$$$. Well it sucks that youre going to have to double the amount youre paying BUT like you said good thing she didn't go for the $1550!

CurlyQ284 · March 2011

Wowwww good for BM. That is awesome. I am all about doing the right thing, but dang, if I thought I could get $1500 per month...that would be tough to say no, and I'm a SM. Did she do the formula right? Did that take into consideration that you have 50/50? Either way, kudos to BM!

simplegirl226 · March 2011

I know that shocked me that she did not want to get all that money but she knew it would put us in a bad place. She knows how to manipulate the numbers so that she looks way worse then she is due to her being a realtor. But I am glad she did the right thing.

summerlilly2008 · March 2011

I agree, good for BM. I know my sk's BM would jump on the $1500 and not look back.

simplegirl226 · March 2011

tifanico:

How did the court calculate that?

Good for BM doing the right thing!

I have no clue b/c we have yet to see anything about the child support stuff. We only know what BM has been telling us. She said we should get something in the mail soon so I guess we will find out how they did everything when that comes in.

J&A2008 · March 2011

Wow! That is a great story. I read the first 2 paragraphs and figured you meant "rant" instead of "rave" but then I got to the happy ending. I wish more families could figure out the c/s without a fight!

LMS1978 · March 2011

I'm a BM and I'm basically doing the same thing that she did. My ex and I had an amicable divorce so we do not have the CS for DD deducted from his paycheck. He paid me the amount he was supposed to every month until he lost his job last July. In January he finally gave up and moved several states away to live with his parents and try to get back on his feet. We've always just worked things out between the two of us. The reason for the divorce was that he had another child while we were still married. The CS for that little girl is deducted from his paycheck and I know that he will be really struggling if I pursue a paycheck deduction for my money. It is tough for me to make ends meet but I know that when things get better for him, he'll make it up.

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