TTC #2 ... Feeling Guilty?

SparrowBlue · March 2011

I know, sounds crazy, but since DH & I are ttc #2, sometimes a feel a little guilty toward DS. Maybe its because I was an only child, but i feel like hes not going to get as much attention anymore, or that maybe he will feel "rejected" in a sense with a new baby?

Is this normal? Please, someone help me out!

TIA

LoveEeyore · March 2011

I cried off and on throughout my entire pregnancy about dethroning her from her "one and Only" status. And she loves the twins and she did from the minute they were home.. She is asking for 2 more babies. Now the only guilt I feel is for agreeing to DH's vasectomy. I am so glad I gave such awesome gifts to her. You have the power to shape his perception and acceptance of the new one. Even if LO has difficulty adjusting, he will still have a sibling for the rest of his life, you know?

momtoRaegan041008 · March 2011

The morning I peed on that pregnancy test and it was positive, all I could think about is how will my daughter feel. I sat in the bathroom and cried for a good 10 minutes. We were TTC and I'm not sure why I was so in shock, I guess reality just hit it wasn't going to be just her anymore.

ktb31 · March 2011

pregnant with #2 and definitely feeling that way, although logically it seems so silly. I know the adjustment at first might be hard but in the end I think my son will love being a big brother.

I can't imagine having gone through life without my little brother. I felt "rejected" when he was born, then we were best friends and I'd occasionally beat him up and boss him around but he now claims it made him a much more "go with the flow" kind of person:) So even though it will probably be tough adjusting, in the end it's a wonderful thing.

The other day I read that the relationship with your sibling is the longest relationship you will have with anyone in your life. I'd never thought about it like that.

June2007 · March 2011

I felt like through my whole second pregnancy off and on. It's totally normal! Now I feel dumb for ever having thought like that! It is incomprehensible that you can love someone else as much as your LO because you've never experienced such an intense love, IMO. Its amazing how much you can love though! I dont feel guilty at all for having another LO and feel my LO's can only benefit from more siblings. But now I feel guilty now in a different way than I expected (we're always looking for new reasons to feel guilty it seems!) I feel bad that DD didnt have a sibling until now! The relationship they already have is just so amazing and DD#1 is DD#2's favorite person in the whole world. I think DD#1's life would definitely be lacking a lot with out a sibling. No offense but I can't imagine life as an only child would be preferable, but that's just my opinion. GL!

SweetPeanis · March 2011

I felt like that too during my entire pregnancy and then for the first few months of having the two. Now I can't believe I ever felt bad! DD#1 adores her sister!!! She's constantly talking to her and hugging her and showing her how to do things. (She's pretty convinced she taught DD#2 how to roll over) And when I see DD#2's face light up when her big sister walks into the room, it's just so amazing!

I'm so looking forward to giving my girls another sibling someday!

SparrowBlue · March 2011

thanks so much ladies! you have really made me feel a lot better! i want ds to have that closeness that you should have with a sibling, i just didnt know i would feel so guilty about making him one! haha!