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Counting fail--maternity leave
I haven't really looked at a calendar, just knew that I was going back to work in late April (thank goodness for dc having 16 weeks FMLA). I just looked and realized that I've been off for 9 weeks, not 8, and I'm due back in 6 weeks and a few days. I'm not ready for this and I don't think LO is either :-(
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Re: Counting fail--maternity leave
It's amazing how much they grow in those 6 weeks though. It's crazy. Babies really do grow up too fast.
And, kudos to you for not wanting to go back to work yet! By 8 weeks I was wishing that I had a job to return to!
umm, what?? not that it mattered for me, but my employer only told me I had 12 weeks and i worked in dc. shady.
that is sad though! are you jumping right back in to full time? maybe you can do a modified schedule your first few weeks back to ease into it?
If you're a fed, you don't get DC FMLA. Also, I believe there are restrictions to DC FMLA even if you're in the private sector (like # of employees at the place, etc.). Playing devil's advocate, maybe one of those applies?
Actually, I want to go back - the idea of a full day without screaming and spit up and poopy diapers is heavenly. I could even go take a nap in my car in the garage if I wanted, lol. But LO is so sensitive and he needs me.
Luckily, DH is done for the semester the week that I go back and is off the whole summer so we don't need day care until August. And if I can't be with LO, DH is almost as good (I only say almost because he doesn't have boob juice on tap - only bottled).
I am going to talk to my work about a modified schedule when I return - I think maybe working from home one day a week would be good, and I'll probably start earlier in the day and try to leave by 4. Our CEO told me before I went on leave that she would do whatever it took to get me to come back, so I think I have some leverage. May is a busy month for me at work, but once June hits I should be able to be more flexible until late August, at which point they will be used to me working a flex schedule and then it shouldn't be too hard.
I think it's harder, too, because LO is clearly functioning more at his adjusted age (4 weeks) rather than his actual age (8 weeks). Even though it's only 4 weeks difference, it's huge. It was like a light bulb going off when he started sleeping a little better last week and I realized that it was that he had finally figured out his days and nights - at 2.5 weeks adjusted, which is just about right. I would love for him to hit all the milestones at actual age--like smiles, which I am desperately craving right now--but he's got to take his time. Poor kid got forced out too soon!
nope, not a fed. but maybe it's some other rule that applies, who knows.
I did this - my new schedule is 8-4:30, which means I have time to go to the gym and then see J for longer at night before he goes to bed (since he's still in bed no later than 7). Working from home is also great because even if LO is going to daycare, *you* don't have to hurry and get ready, so you can spend more time together in the morning and there's no commute to bother with.
The same thing happened to me (J was three weeks early). Honestly, it was really frustrating, because it seemed like three extra weeks of crying, no sleeping, fussiness, etc. Every time I read in HSHHC that he should be able to do X at a certain age or adjust depending on due date I wanted to throw the book. But once you hit the early milestones - smiling, laughing, sleeping better - the other ones don't seem like a big deal.
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