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*headdesk* the unsolicited advice is killing me

nitalnital member
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the nonstop stream of unsolicited advice that i disagree with is about to make me scream.  the best part, it's coming from my parents.  who just got here yesterday, and will be staying with me for 2 weeks.  i've already had the "i'm ignoring your 30 year old outdated parenting advice from the newspaper in lieu of advice from my trusted pediatrician and OB" chat with them. 

so far they've complained about the dogs being too close to abigail (they were just sniffing her), told me i can't eat duck or lobster (but they're planning on having duck this weekend if the ILs come over), insist i'm spoiling my week old newborn when i respond to her when she cries, tell me i shouldn't wash my breastpump in hot water (?????), etc, etc.

they're going to drive me to drinking.

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Re: *headdesk* the unsolicited advice is killing me

  • ayersfam20ayersfam20 member
    Oh man, I feel your pain!  It is so tough.  I've found the only thing I could do was say, "thank you for your advice" and then do what I wanted instead.  I constantly responded with a lot of "oh wells!" too.  As in .. you're going to spoil her ... oh well!  Then she'll be spoiled!
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  • starlettedirstarlettedir member
    I just ignore and walk away =)
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  • Suzi-G-Suzi-G- member

    I always just say something like "huh, that's interesting" then quick say something else like "Say! Did you see that sale flier from Target?  I think we should go later."

    But yes, somehow a baby brings out crazy advice from everyone.   

    My big boy is bounding towards 4! Baby brother coming in October!
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  • thumpofmyheartthumpofmyheart

    I love it when my FIL gives adivce when he never once changed a diaper or did  anything when it came to his boys.....it's just crazy!

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  • bre87bre87
    everyone has given me their opinion on when i can be out of the house or take the baby out. a neighbor saw me walking the dog the other day and told me i didn't need to be outside.  someone else was like "oh i can't wait the 6 weeks until you can bring the baby over for me to see".  its worse than all the stuff people told me i couldn't do when i was pregnant!
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  • nchschic05nchschic05

    Even at a year later it hasn't stopped for me. I just smile, nod, and ignore!

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  • step2mom2010step2mom2010
    imagenchschic05:

    Even at a year later it hasn't stopped for me. I just smile, nod, and ignore!

    I was going to say this.  If it makes you feel any better, it doesn't stop as they get older!!

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  • almond1123almond1123
    imagenital:

    they're going to drive me to drinking.

    I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to drink.  Just saying Stick out tongue

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  • nitalnital member
    imagealmond1123:
    imagenital:

    they're going to drive me to drinking.

    I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to drink.  Just saying Stick out tongue

    i bring new meaning to the term lightweight.  3 sips of booze and i'm done.

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  • southernndolllsouthernndolll
    They're your parents tell them you know what you're doing and to stop hounding you. Why is it that you can't eat duck or lobster?? & What else would you wash a breast pump in, cold water??
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  • nitalnital member

    imagesouthernndolll:
    They're your parents tell them you know what you're doing and to stop hounding you. Why is it that you can't eat duck or lobster?? & What else would you wash a breast pump in, cold water??

    the duck and lobster is a chinese thing.  they also grumbled at me for grabbing stuff off the top shelf when i was 9 months pregnant.  apparently reaching makes the baby come out with 3 heads or something.  i dunno.  my dad subscribes to every chinese old wives tale there is.  and let me tell you, there's a lot of them. 

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