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I need mommy friends...

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in February 2011 Moms

So, we are the first in our group to have kids.. I posted about being scared of no longer being with our friends after we had our LO.. and turns out those fears where legit.  I was on bed rest for 2 weeks and the only one of them came by to hang out.. Then we spent a whole week in the hospital after we had DS and the same one was the only one who came by to see us (only once) and now that we have been home for 2 weeks, we havn't seen our friends at all.  They did come over once when we invited them all over..  Also I was part of a book club (with 3 other girls) and they all started a new book with out me..  So so far the only people that have really been here are our family and our neighbors.. Which I'm glad to have them.. but I really need to find some friends that have kids and understand what we are going thru.. I am not sure I can take care of our son, the house, etc and be in one way friendships..  (us always making the plns)

I am going to a mom's group this month here our town and in April I'm going to a new moms tea.  So hopefully can meet ppl there...


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  • AvieeAviee
    I know that feeling!  Lucky for you, you can easily find things like that in your area.  I'd have to turn over every rock in town to find something to do, it seems.  For now, I guess I'll just bond that much better with LO
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  • RumbleLinaRumbleLina member

    I am 23 and the first of everyone to get married, buy a home, and have a child. I have no friends to relate to anymore. It sucks majorly because everyone stopped calling me when I became PG since I wasn't able to get tipsy with them anymore.

    I only had one friend and her boyfriend come see me in the hospital. Which was sad considering I had some 'best friends' visiting town the weekend DS was born but, alas, none of them came to visit. They just came to drink with our other friends and watch the Super Bowl.

    I try not to think about it so I don't get depressed. Some of these friends I have known since kindergarden so I expected a little more from them.

    Just know you are not the only one going through it!

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  • dee1369dee1369
    I was so lucky to have both of my best friends get pregnant (both unexpectedly) around the same time as we had planned to try to conceive. One had a baby girl in November and the other is due to have a girl in April. I can't imagine how things would have went if things hadn't worked out like that and I feel for you - only one of DH's friends has children and he's pretty much the only one DH spends time with these days. Hopefully you'll find some great new friends in your mom's group!
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  • MallyboomerMallyboomer member

    Totally relate, unfortunately.

    Most of my friends have been supportive, but there's definitely an experience gap now, considering most of them are just acquiring serious boyfriends... marriage and babies are for them something to be considered in the distant future.

    Honestly, there's not much in my area that facilitates meeting other moms. We'll see what happens, I guess.

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  • GoMommyGoMommy member

    I live in a same town and didn't think there was much around here either, but I went to the library and thats where the moms group meets... You might want to check around at your libraries and see if they host something..

    Plus I'm very grateful to have the bump.. b/c with out it, we would be pretty lonely I think.. I know I would be!


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  • TiffanyTheMomTiffanyTheMom member

    i know there's a lot of playgroups for moms here, but I have a hard time getting out to them. DH has a car now so I have my van, but I'm so stinking tired I just can't fathom leaving the house most days. It was the same for me, most of my good friends fell to the wayside when I had my first. And then I moved while pg with #2, and then went through PPD so no motivation to get out...

    I had made friends, but the thing that blows about the military BIG TIME is that people are always moving away. All the mommy friends I had last year are now in TX, WA, VA, GA, and HI. :( Absolutely sucks big time. Now I have to wait til I'm not too tired to go out and make new friends!

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  • misskassielynnmisskassielynn member
    I am in the same boat :(. First to marry, first to get pregnant, and we moved for DH's job. I too am hoping that a mom's group will help, mine is through my hospital. Course we are moving again in a few months, but at least it an hour only an hour away. Thebump has seriously saved my sanity!
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  • laurapalmerlaurapalmer
    I hope you're able to find some mom friends nearby soon. As far as your current friends, do you think some of them might just be giving you space since it's only been two weeks? Maybe since they haven't been through it they're just waiting for the signal from you and don't want to impose or come at the wrong time. I have one much younger friend who said she was afraid to call because she didn't want to wake the baby or call when it was a bad time for me. That might not be the case for all of your friends but it's something to consider. 
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  • myszkomyszko
    I went for the first time yesterday and met with some other mommies, and it was great.  It's so nice to just chat with them and you are all in the same boat, so you have lots in common just because of the babies.  I plan to go to a hospital new moms group and also one at a local baby store.  The more the better, I think.  It's also nice to get out of the house and still be in an environment where you can BF comfortably.  
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