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Crossroad once again..

leffe1leffe1
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So, the other night DH says he wants another baby. He really wants Gracie to have a sibling. We had made our decision a couple months ago that we were done. The biggest factor was age. My dh is 40 and I will be 40 in August. I really cannot imagine going through all of this again. He says ultimately it is my decision. A part of me gets excited at the "thought" of it but then reality sets in. I like that my life is back to normal somewhat :-). I like our family of just us. Plus, it took us 14 months to get pg so I don't see this happening quickly should we decide to move ahead.

I feel like I am once again at a crossroad in my life and am looking for some guidance or a sign :-)

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  • daisydanadaisydana member
    Wow! Talk about a bombshell. I don't know if you saw my response to you in my post the other day. I said that I was sad for you and didn't know you guys had decided that you were done. I feel the same way about the *idea* of another baby. Oh so dreamy. And then the REALITY of it sets in. I just don't know if I am cut out for it. Your head must be spinning! My DH and I are on the same page.... Totally undecided. But... If he said he wanted another, that would probably make the decision for me. Whatever you guys decide will be the right choice for your family.
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  • leffe1leffe1
    Thanks Dana! I wish you the best too.
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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Hey now.. you're making 40 sound like old age!!  I was 42 when C was born and haven't ruled out having another one.  Guess we have to have sex to get that accomplished, tho.

    It's all about your attitude, woman.  If you act old, you'll BE old.   Of course, my body may have other things to say about that.

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  • racampbell1racampbell1
    Free advice from an analytical over thinker who obsesses about every detail before it happens:  just follow your heart.  If your heart wants another baby, have one!  Or at least try for one until you reach the point where you feel like you're "too old" whatever that may be for you so you don't look back with regrets.  DH and I overthought EVERY single detail about trying for #2.  Then we decided to go for it and were so, so happy when I got pregnant.  Then we lost that pregnancy and I was heartbroken.  It made me realize how much I DO want another baby.  Newborn phase and all.  You'll get through that part in no time, look how fast your first one is growing up.  All that said, do what is right for you and your family - I don't think there is a "wrong" decision here.  Good luck!! 
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  • DragonflyerDragonflyer

    I was 40 when I had Finn. It was a lot easier the second time around (except when I had the flu at 9 weeks pg.) I was more tired with two but really it wasn't too bad. If we were better financially, I would consider a third.

    Newborn phase flew by. It is much easier when you are not so worried and know what to do. Your body remembers and you have learned to take sleep when you can. I feel like I missed Finny's newborn stage because I was so busy.  

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    Don't have any advice except follow your intuition - it never fails.
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