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February 2011 Moms
a.graves
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MIL issues...
a.graves
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When my mom was here we went to go visit the IL's and MIL was SUPER rude to not only me but my mom as well. (MIL would not let my mom hold DD. Among telling my mom I am a drunk, and other things.) 2 weeks later I am still pretty livid with the whole situation, but know if I say anything, MIL will turn it on me, and make it out to be all my fault.
Now my mom and DH are both pushing me to call MIL and talk to her. I am both not ready, or willing to talk to that dragon. I have told both of them this. But they keep pushing me to call her. I love DH, but I do not love his mom. She has tried to break up our marriage, and push me out of the family.
DH and my mom both want me to call her so that I can keep her a part of DD life. Well I see that as DH's job not mine. I am just so done with her and her games. I will be civil, but that is all I will be.
Do you think I should call to make peace? I do not see the point since I feel like I did nothing wrong.
My life is so full of love!
Surviving The Wyoming Wind
Surviving The Wyoming WindThis discussion has been closed.
Re: MIL issues...
Oh ick.
I wouldn't want to call her either nor would I feel like it is my responsibility to fix what she did/said.
Your DH should have also stepped in when she was calling you a drunk and whatever else she called you. Heck, if you really want just have him call and talk to her and call her out on her poor behavior. It is his mother after all.
Copied from post "Anyone Hate their LO being around their IL's?" I didn't want to rewrite the details.
Right now I am not talking to the IL's. They were SO rude while my mom was here and I finally decided to not even play their game. It is mostly my MIL.
While my mom was here we went to go see the IL's, and my mom was, "not allowed" to hold LO because MIL wanted to hold her. Then lied to me and said she got pictures of my mom holding DD, but when I talked to my mom she said no she did not get to hold her at all. I was LIVID!!!
She told my mom that I am pretty much a drunk.
Oh and when we got to the IL's house, MIL took DD and told me, "Alright you are cooking so get on it." WHAT?!?!?! I do not cook at other people's house especially if they invite US over to have dinner.
My MIL told everyone that at least LO got her looks and not my or DH looks because at least then she will be pretty.
We did some pictures and MIL would not let me hold LO for the pictures because MIL HAD to hold her. "It would look so much better that way." As she said.
She was constantly saying that DD was fussy because she needed grandma. No one else but grandma would make her feel better. I just told her she was hungry and tried and that if grandma would stop waking her up then maybe she would get a decent nap.
Oh and lastly, she told everyone that we should leave DD with her because she would take better care of her then we would.
Then right before we left she woke up DD and said I was the one who wanted her awake. Which is not true at all. I tried to feed DD before the hour long ride home but she was not hungry and went to sleep. Then she got woken up by MIL and cried the whole way home. Thanks!
All in all MIL is a major b!tch and I want nothing to do with her!!! I thought we had gotten over this and were headed to a healthy and mature relationship, but guess not. Oh well. Her loss not mine.
Oh and did I mention that the next day she FACEBOOKED DH and told him how rude I was. Um, what?
Sorry for the rant, but it still pisses me off how she treated me and my mom while my mom was in town.What did your DH say back to her when she said you were rude?
It sounds like your DH needs to step up to his mom and let her know that her behavior is out of line and she needs to make a decision to either respect his family or else the effort on your parts for her to see her granddaughter is going to be drastically reduced. Your DD doesn't need to be around someone who treats her mother like that- as your DD gets older she is going to pick up on the toxic attitude your MIL had.
He told her that if she had an issue with me then to talk to me about it, not him. Which I think is fair, but she wont.
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Beautiful daughter born February 2011
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Even if my mom has been wronged, she is a peace keeper. That is the thing I love most about her. She cares so much about people and relationships.
I wish I could move far away from MIL, but we just bought a house. She already lives an hour away, but that is still to close. I would love to poison her, but that is not legal. Better yet if she would just butt out for a while that would be nice.
No, this is your hubby's game, not yours. HIS mother is a disgusting human being, and HE needs to step in and tell her she needs to back off. If you had provoked it in some way, I'd say yeah, you might need to apologize. It sounds like she is 100% in the wrong all the way here though and your DH needs to tell her to shove it.
If he needs a pair of balls, I have a steel pair in my drawer. They're a little dusty, but he can borrow them if he wants.