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Trouble TTC
mrshurley10
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dont worry, it will happen when you stop stressing about it
mrshurley10
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really, if i hear that one more time i will scream. i have been ttc for the last 8 months. i just started provera 2 days ago, waiting patiently to start my first cycle of clomid. i just needed to blow off some steam on this subject since i think most of you know how i feel. i am so sick of hearing people say that i need to stop thinking about getting pregnant for it to happen. Can anyone tell me how to do this, because every month it seems to get harder and harder.... how do you not think about the only thing that matters.......thanks
TTC since 4/2010
Clomid 3/2011 & 4/2011
BFP 5/2011 Natural MC 5/20/11 BFP 7/3/11
BFP 11/9/2012
dx Partial Molar Pregnancy - D&C 12/11/12
HCG 12/10/2012 -96000
HCG 12/19/2012 -888
HCG 12/27/2012 -146
HCG 1/2/2013 -275
HCG 1/9/2013 -788
Dx with gestational trophoblastic disease 1/3/13
Meet with Oncologist for 1/11/2013
Second D&C 1/16
HCG 1/23/2013 - 88
HCG 1/30/2013 - 0 miracle!!!!!
BFP 11/9/2012
dx Partial Molar Pregnancy - D&C 12/11/12
HCG 12/10/2012 -96000
HCG 12/19/2012 -888
HCG 12/27/2012 -146
HCG 1/2/2013 -275
HCG 1/9/2013 -788
Dx with gestational trophoblastic disease 1/3/13
Meet with Oncologist for 1/11/2013
Second D&C 1/16
HCG 1/23/2013 - 88
HCG 1/30/2013 - 0 miracle!!!!!This discussion has been closed.
Re: dont worry, it will happen when you stop stressing about it
::Deep breath:: Oh my, I was about to ream you b/c your title made me think you were telling us that! Whoa!
Anyway, yes, that is the crappiest piece of advice and I'm sorry people keep telling you that.
There is a post below with some good advice on how to deal with the heartbreak every month...I'll link it here.
TroubleTTC
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end --Semisonic
**TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
**Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **
**7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
**3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
**DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
**HSG= All clear!!**
**3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
**5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
**7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
**8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
**11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
**Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
**Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
**Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
**On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**
Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies!
~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~
Here's the link:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/50127060.aspx
FTR: Bump godz, I am in no way linking a thread for mean purposes, just helping a fellow bumpie, please don't ban me.
TroubleTTC
Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end --Semisonic
**TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
**Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **
**7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
**3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
**DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
**HSG= All clear!!**
**3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
**5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
**7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
**8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
**11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
**Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
**Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
**Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
**On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**
Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies!
~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~
It's hard to get that advice esp for people who barely had to try. But after 2.5 years of trying I can tell you that relaxing is helpful.
There have been periods where TTC is EVERYTHING in my life and it's horrible for my marriage and my life. Now I try to surround myself with lots of things way beyond TTC although it is always in the back of my mind.
I try to take baths, go for walks, exercise and do little things just for me that help me relax and have "me time".
I think that people who say "just relax" don't mean literally, maybe they don't even know what they are trying to say but after many moons I take it as don't let TTC be all consuming in your life.
Best of luck!
I just heard this from my SIL last week and I basically let her have it in a e-mail. Well I did it in a nice way and told her relaxing does not work for me. I said we have been trying for 3 years and we are at the point that we need medical help. I posted on my blog things not to say on Friday, blog is in my siggy.
Then I found out that my MIL told one of my good friends that we needed to relax. Luckily my friend is a nurse and has suffer from infertility and set my MIL straight. I am hoping I do not hear any more from her.
(((HUGS))) - GL! I hope things get better for you.
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TTC for over 3 years. After several infertility treatments, we received our first BFP!!
Ugh, I HATE, HATE, HATE that saying! DH and I have been TTC for 2.5+ years now, and we get that from everyone!
In fact, our BF's told us that they were expecting and had the balls to say if we stopped stressing about it, we could expierence pregnancy together. WTF??
Trying to stay positive and stressfree after such a long time is just not that possible.
Good luck ladies!
Can't agree more with you all.
Maybe if you stopped stressing, maybe if you didn't go to school and work so much.
My mom's favorite, "only God knows." No disrespect to God, but my mom really needs to stop saying that.