Let's talk Vasectomy...

mmsall · March 2011

Soooo, I'm pretty sure DH and I have decided after much, much, much thought that he's going to get a vasectomy. Now the research begins since we personally are pretty much clueless on the whole process.

Wondering, have any of your DH had this procedure? Is there anything that you would like to share about the process? Any regrets? Open forum - let me know anything and everything...

TIA!

AllisonErq · March 2011

i will be stalking the post - we are in the same boat as you are. after #2 is born, we have pretty much made the decision to do the ol' snip-a-roonie too, but have no clue about it at all. good luck to you and your hubby!

murfygirl · March 2011

I still need DH's man parts in working order for my next babies BUT my BIL had the ole snip snip. He said it was a very simple outpatient procedure. He even drove himself home and I think it was like 6-10 weeks following where you have to use a back of form of BC then come in and get tested to make sure you're officially shooting blanks.

MamatoJackson · March 2011

DH getting it done on Wednesday! Can't wait. We have Kaiser insurance and they had him attend a quick class, explaining everything. He has to provide a sample at 2 months post-procedure and again at 6 months-post procedure. Using condoms until then.

Very easy, painless, they can give him something (valium?) if he's nervous. They don't even use sutures - They just poke a hole, pull the 'spaghetti' out, clip it, catherize (spelling?) it, shove it back in, put a bandaid over it. Fast recovery - Can drive themselves home and if done on a Friday, back to work on Monday.

MamatoJackson · March 2011

Oh, and reversal (through our HMO) is $5,000. Have heard that the procedure can go all the way up to 10 to 12k and it's only effective 50% of the time, so you want to be reeeeally sure you're done.

JLGY · March 2011

MamatoJackson:
Oh, and reversal (through our HMO) is $5,000. Have heard that the procedure can go all the way up to 10 to 12k and it's only effective 50% of the time, so you want to be reeeeally sure you're done.

Yep. A friend of mine wanted a reversal and it didn't work for him so be sure.

murfygirl · March 2011

JLGY:
MamatoJackson:
Oh, and reversal (through our HMO) is $5,000. Have heard that the procedure can go all the way up to 10 to 12k and it's only effective 50% of the time, so you want to be reeeeally sure you're done.
Yep. A friend of mine wanted a reversal and it didn't work for him so be sure.

Speaking of this I have a friend who had 2 kids with her then husband. They both thought they were done at 2. She talked him into getting a vasectomy the whole time knowing she wanted a divorce and planned on leaving him. A month after his vasectomy she left him. He was very mad at her since he is only 26 she told him "well I don't want my kids to have half siblings anyways!" Indifferent

Hulahoop1234 · March 2011

murfygirl:
JLGY:
MamatoJackson:
Oh, and reversal (through our HMO) is $5,000. Have heard that the procedure can go all the way up to 10 to 12k and it's only effective 50% of the time, so you want to be reeeeally sure you're done.
Yep. A friend of mine wanted a reversal and it didn't work for him so be sure.
Speaking of this I have a friend who had 2 kids with her then husband. They both thought they were done at 2. She talked him into getting a vasectomy the whole time knowing she wanted a divorce and planned on leaving him. A month after his vasectomy she left him. He was very mad at her since he is only 26 she told him "well I don't want my kids to have half siblings anyways!"

I actually also know a woman who did this at a very young age. She went on to have two more kids with another man. She told me she knew she was done having kids with guy #1 but she also knew that SHE wasn't done having kids. Sick.

water-fairy · March 2011

Thanks for asking! We are also on the vasectomy boat after #2 is born. We are already having 1 more kid than DH ever wanted

I'm pretty sure he doesn't mind the snip.

melody921 · March 2011

AllisonErq:
i will be stalking the post - we are in the same boat as you are. after #2 is born, we have pretty much made the decision to do the ol' snip-a-roonie too, but have no clue about it at all. good luck to you and your hubby!

LOL, snip-a-roonie. Once we're done having kids, DH will be going in for this too.

melody921 · March 2011

Hulahoop1234:
murfygirl:
JLGY:
MamatoJackson:
Oh, and reversal (through our HMO) is $5,000. Have heard that the procedure can go all the way up to 10 to 12k and it's only effective 50% of the time, so you want to be reeeeally sure you're done.
Yep. A friend of mine wanted a reversal and it didn't work for him so be sure.
Speaking of this I have a friend who had 2 kids with her then husband. They both thought they were done at 2. She talked him into getting a vasectomy the whole time knowing she wanted a divorce and planned on leaving him. A month after his vasectomy she left him. He was very mad at her since he is only 26 she told him "well I don't want my kids to have half siblings anyways!"

I actually also know a woman who did this at a very young age. She went on to have two more kids with another man. She told me she knew she was done having kids with guy #1 but she also knew that SHE wasn't done having kids. Sick.

WTH is the matter with people?

aniceucchik · March 2011

DH is gettinig one after DS2 gets here. I am beyond thrilled at the thought. I may even get tied up as well, just to make sure.

MsAlyss · March 2011

My DH has his done last June. It was a very simple outpatient procedure. & covered by our insurance. We had to pay a copay for the initial visit, and then another copay for the actual procedure.

He was sore for a few days. But the dr told him to go home & take it easy, and the next day he insisted on going to Target with me because he felt "fine"....that kept him out of work for an extra day. So, just make sure your H sits his ass home with a bag of frozen peas

He had to provide a sample 30 days & 90 days after the vasectomy. Until both came back clear we used condoms.

All told, it was the right decision for us

white318 · March 2011

My husband and his ex decided he would have one 15 years ago... it was very simple and he was running the next day. Reversal not so much... he was in extreme pain and it was not successful. I would recommend the vasectemy to anyone that is SURE they are done. Because the extraction to do IVF if a reversal is unsuccessful is painful as well and VERY expensive.... not to mention all of the other costs associated with IVF. I feel so badly for all my husband went through for us to try and get pregnant...so I wouldn't want anyone else to be in the same boat.

MelodyMoonstone · March 2011

DH agreed to it, now I just need to get his procrastinating ass into the Drs and see if we can get it covered by our insurance.

rebus82 · March 2011

MsAlyss:
My DH has his done last June. It was a very simple outpatient procedure. & covered by our insurance. We had to pay a copay for the initial visit, and then another copay for the actual procedure.
He had to provide a sample 30 days & 90 days after the vasectomy. Until both came back clear we used condoms.

This, except DH has his done when B was six months old (we were really sure about having an only). No regrets. We always said even if we decided on a second child we'd adopt, vasectomy or not.

The peas were a lifesaver, but make sure to have multiple bags so you can switch them out as they thaw. We bough cheap $1 bags of veggies at Target (peas and corn) and switched them out every couple hours. One on the crotch, one in the freezer getting cold. Oh, if your DH wears boxers, get some briefs for after the surgery. DH HATES briefs, but said he was so glad the doctor told him ahead of time to wear tight underwear because freeballing would have been unbearable. We bought him Batman briefs, to make it more amusing (and it was).

I drove him to and from the appt. Physically he could have done it himself, but because he took the Valium (he wasn't nervous, but they recommended it anyway) he had no business driving. He was on the pain meds they gave him for a couple days, then back to normal. Had surgery Friday morning and was back to work Monday.

valerieanderic · March 2011

My husband had it done a little over a year ago.

He went to the dr's office on Friday afternoon. He took Ibuprophren every 4-5 hrs to keep from being in any pain. He went to Target with me that night, hung some sheetrock in our basement on Saturday and to a sledding party on Sunday. Then, was back to work on Monday. Obviously didn't keep him down! He was a little sore at night, but staying on top of the ibuprophren seemed to do the trick.

Definitely way easier than any permanent option for me!

campbell2178 · March 2011

My DH had it done a year ago. The procedure was quick and he said was painless. The only thing he didn't like was the pulling feeling while the were doing the procedure. Afterward he wasn't in a lot of pain, he just layed on the couch the rest of the day. He didn't really swell that bad either. The next day he was basically fine. He had to adjust to wearing whitey tighties for a few days. I LOVE that he had it done so we don't have to worry about birth control ever! Best thing we ever did.

mmsall · March 2011

Thank you all so much! I really appreciate your input and tips!!!

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