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leneae10leneae10 member
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PLEASE remind me it's not okay to compare my baby's progress with others in the NICU!!!!!  My 35 weeker is the oldest and biggest baby in the NICU.  Only since a couple of days ago has he moved down on the list of who the doctor sees first.  His neighbor was born the day before him at 31 weeks, was being held, bathed, etc.  Yesterday, on her day 6, she was compeltely on room air and was moved to Special Care nursery.

Isaac is on Day 6 today and he's still fully dependent on nasal cannula, no bath, still haven't held him.  He just won't oxygenate his blood, therefore, he won't stabilize.  I'm sure it has to do with the transfusions and his stress in utero.

I know he will work it out in HIS time, but I'm green with envy.  I'm so incredibly happy for that baby girl, but statistically, my baby should be home by now. Crying

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Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
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Re: Comparing...

  • JakesBride07JakesBride07

    I can tell you it's not ok, but then I'd be a hypocrite. I have a hard time even with not comparing my twins...Espeically when DS was doing sooo well and DD was struggling...

    I thing it's human nature. And believe me I know how you feel, I've already watched three babies leave to go home or step down nursery bound.

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  • luvdv8luvdv8 member
    It happens- and you'll keep doing it once LO is out. When your child starts out a little behind the pack you're constantly looking to see how they should be stacking up. Remember, every baby is different and two babies born on the same day are going to fare differently- even twins handle things their own way. Also, remember that statistically little girl preemies fare slightly better than little boy preemies, so you can't even compare your DS to his neighbor- it's all what they're facing and how their bodies are handling it.
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  • kar5162kar5162 member
    It is really frustrating.  My 34 weeker did really well the first 5 days and then struggled.  He ended up being in the NICU/SCU for just over a month and came home just before 39 weeks.  He just couldn't quite keep all the pieces of being out together.  Your son is only 36 weeks ga.  He's still supposed to be inside, working on putting this all together in an easier way.  Girls do typically do better than boys, but even then, not all.  He'll make it home soon enough.
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  • lemen99lemen99 member

    Hugs!!!

     

    My DS was in the NICU 3 weeks after his due date and with the exception of a few much older kids (I felt so awful for them), he was so much bigger and older.  it's hard to see them struggle!

     

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