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Looks like I'm joining you ladies..
My H left yesterday for basic training at Ft. Jackson. I had months to prepare myself for it and I feel a little ashamed when I say that I'm pretty upset about him being gone. I definitely shouldn't say that here because it's nothing compared to what many of you ladies have gone through.
I just feel like it's stressful being on my own with the baby. And I hate not knowing how he's doing, etc. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: Looks like I'm joining you ladies..
Just keep yourself busy. Time will pass more quickly than what you think. And always remember to write your DH. He will really appreciate the letters. I know mine did.
I live about 45 minutes from Ft. Jackson. DH went to basic there too. I know it's not the same company to company, but I got a letter from him just about everyday. He got to call a couple of times. His DS even let him call on my birthday which I thought was nice.
Keep your head up
) It will all be over soon. And once again..just keep as busy as you can 
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I'm not gonna lie, it sucks big time when they can't call yet. I think it was 3 months before I got a phonecall from DH when he was at OSUT. But I became best friends with my mailbox. I saved every letter I got from DH and he brought all the ones I wrote to him home with him. I keep them on my bookcase to remind me of that time. I'm about to get back into letter writing mode with DH being recently deployed and our LO will be making her arrival very shortly, so I'm hoping I have time with learning how to parent as a FTM by myself.
Honestly, the time will feel like it's dragging and flying by at the same time. You'll get through it because you have to. And you always have the lovely ladies of the bump when you're bored or pulling your hair out going crazy!
Like a PP said, he will really appreciate letters, even if he doesn't have time to send any back. When my (then fiance) got home, he said Wednesdays were the worst day of the week because he always knew he wouldn't get any mail that day. I would write about the stupidest things just to be able to fill a page, and about once a week, I would send him a picture from home. He still has every one saved somewhere.
For you, no matter how much you prepare yourself beforehand, it still sucks. Even when you get used to it, every time he has to be gone will still suck, but you learn a lot of coping skills quickly. As soon as you get stationed, look into spouse support groups. I was shy and I'm a bit of a hippie, so I was really reluctant to join groups. Now I wish I'd have gotten into it sooner because some of the best friends I have are from spouse support things. On our base, they offer a lot of classes for new spouses to learn things like acronyms, routines, base services, etc.
I don't see it on this board, but I see IRL a lot of times spouses falling into the "who has it worse" competition. It's just as okay to be sad over him being gone for a couple of months as it is for him to be deployed. He's your husband and the father of your child, of course you want him around! I was probably almost as bummed over my husband switching to swing shifts as I was when he was TDY for my birthday and Christmas.
Don't feel badly about missing your husband. That's perfectly normal.
Like the other ladies said, write him a ton of letters. Even if the letters seem boring to you, he will love them. When I was in Basic, I felt so out of touch with the world. We weren't allowed to watch any type of tv or news. I loved getting letters from my aunt. She would let me know what was happening around town, out in the world and with small town gossip.
My mom would send me letters telling me about my kids and what they were doing in school and durring the summer. She would tell me about a random day at the beach. Those were the letters that I loved the most.
Send him a one or two pics every week.
You will get into a routine soon and it will get easier. Hang in there.
Thanks ladies. I do feel a lot better today. The good thing about having a baby with my H being gone is it does keep me pretty busy through out the day so I don't have a ton of time to be sad. haha I'll definitely start sending letters as soon as I get the address. : )
I know I'm a little late to the convo., but I agree with everyone. Definitely write letters, but remember he won't always have the time to respond to every single letter. Mine is in afghanistan and I did get slightly worried/upset when I wasn't getting a letter for a while. So, be ready if that does happen.
Do stay busy and it sounds like you will with that LO.
If you have family or friends around take advantage of that as much as possible.
Glad to hear you are doing better.
My hubby went to USMC boot in 2003 and I wrote him a letter and made sure 1 went out every day for 3 months. I got 1 a week and never received a call or anything else but reuniting with him was the best reward and feeling ever.
I am sure you will make it through keep your head up.
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