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March 2011 Moms
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Does anyone else not know a SINGLE THING about what's going on?
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I had the most disappointing and discouraging 38w appointment today. I was basically told nothing at all, and I'm somewhere between pissed and distraught over it.
I've had no internals. My last u/s was 2 weeks ago and the baby was 7lbs2oz - over a pound bigger than normal. All they did today was ask me how I was feeling and listen to the heartbeat. Apparently I have some protein in my urine but BP is normal. So, since 36w, I have nothing new at all from my doctors - no medical guidance whatsoever. I am a small girl and I'm growing a giant baby and I'm nervous...my doctor even said to me today, "Oh, look at your tiny little hips, you didn't widen at all!" Right. And it doesn't concern you that my baby is probably over 8lbs now? You don't want to check her or me or anything to see if things are happening?
Next week's appointment had to be at the sister office which doesn't have an ultrasound machine, so no u/s til 40w. I'm just...baffled that they're not telling me more. Wouldn't you think they'd want to check her size since they know she's measured two weeks big this entire time and they also know that I am not a big person? I've also had surgery on my cervix that may keep me from dilating...wouldn't they want to check that? Negative. All I keep getting is, "Call us when you go into labor, kbyee!"
I think I'm just really, really ready for this to be done and having these appointments that tell me nothing at all are killing me. I haaaaaate being pregnant, I've just had a horrible experience and have tried to be upbeat and positive the entire time, but it's wearing on me. And the creeping thought that delivery is going to be a terrible experience also because my baby is huge is scaring the shiit out of me.
I think I'm going to nap off this self-pity and call my doctor back later under the guise that I "forgot" to ask some questions. Thanks for hearing my vent.
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Re: Does anyone else not know a SINGLE THING about what's going on?
I haven't had an ultrasound at my MW's office since my anatomy scan and I can't tell you the last time I provided a urine sample. The first time I have an internal exam in my 3rd tri will be next week at 39 weeks. I consider all of this to be good news because that means everything is progressing normally.
And don't forget, those growth ultrasounds can be off be quite a lot. Try not to stress, I'm sure everything will be just fine.
It will be okay... I didn't have internals until this week. And it was pointless anyway. The information from internals isn't an indicator of anything... not until 40weeks when they will decide how favorable you are for induction.
The only ultrasound I had after the anatomy scan at the doctor's office was one at 37 weeks that was quick just to make sure LO was head down.
Growth estimates are not accurate. So, I wouldn't put much stock into it or getting worried or stressed over it.
Relax mama ;-)
First, internals are nothing but frustrating. You can be 3-4 cm for weeks or go from 0-10 in hours.
Second, it's very rare for a mama (barring having GD or something) to grow a baby that's too big for her. Ultrasounds can be way off and fundal heights are even more inaccurate. Even if she was 7 pounds 2 weeks ago and gains the average 1/2 pound a week, an 8-9 pound baby is really not enormous.
Try doing lots of squats and walking and bounce around on an exercise ball - those things will help loosen your hips up. Also try not to stress! Stress will cause your body to halt labor - relax, relax, relax.
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I am really sorry you are so frustrated, it's an awful feeling to feel so helpless and just playing the waiting game. That being said, I'm not surprised about your situation at all. What I am surprised at is the number of women on here who keep having internals, keep having ultrasounds, get weighed every two seconds . . . I find it really bizarre. Your doctors know what they're doing and if they had any cause for concern, they would look into it. They obviously feel like you're doing really well and there's no need to go all crazy with this test & that test. Baby will come when baby is ready to come and as agonizing as it can be to wait it out, that's the way it should be. Any internal you have showing "progress" could mean absolutely nothing at all. It will not change the outcome and the doctors know your situation. If they felt your baby was getting too large, they would do something about it.
I would take a deep breath and just be happy that everything is going well!
This! I was due yesterday and I only had 2 internals, 39 weeks (i was 2 cm, 75%) and 40 weeks (3cm, 80%). I am favorable for induction so I am scheduled for next thur if she does not come sooner. Other than that info, I haven't had an u/s since 20 weeks and every appt after that was only a urine sample, measure my belly, and listen to baby's heartbeat. They keep telling me the baby is "average size", which means nothing to me!! Great, she will be anywhere from 6 lbs - 9 lbs!! I was always satisfied w/ my appts, and they always answered any questions i had, but they never volunteered any additional information about my pregnancy other than what I mentioned above, so I just assume they are satisfied with my progress. Relax, I know it's hard (I'm having trouble relaxing at this point!), but it really is what's best for you, your baby, and your body!!
This! Relax!! I've haven't had an ultrasound since 20 weeks and was told no ultrasounds was a good thing. They said they would only do one if something was wrong. And like PPs have said, the estimates on size can be widely off. I had a friend who was told her baby would be 9 lbs and she ended up being 6. Huge difference when they are that small. Plenty of small and thin women have babies every single day. Barring exceptional circumstances, I doubt you would grow a baby your body couldn't handle.
I won't get internals until at least 38 wks, and they are optional until 40. I have not had an u/s since my 20 week scan.
My Dr measured my belly and said yesterday "he's a good size" which my hubby took as "good-sized" or HUGE!! (which he thinks is great)
I called my mom practically in tears, in horrible fear that I have a giant growing in my belly (sounding much like your OP.) She told me that both of her pregnancies she was told the baby will be 8 something - 9 something. We were 6 lbs 10 oz and 6 lbs 13 oz. it made me feel a little better, but that was almost 30 yrs ago.
I posted something on facebook about it and got a million comments saying that the estimate was wrong. One girl was told her baby was 7 lbs when he was actually 9, but the rest all "measured big" or had a u/s that "measured ahead" and their baby was smaller than expected. ...you can just never tell!
Someone posted the other day about this and said that level I u/s can be off by about 2 lbs, where the level II scans are typically +/- only 2 oz! Maybe you can request a level II for your 40 wk appt if you haven't gone into labor by then. If not, just trust your body (first), trust your Drs (second) and hope for the best!!
GL!
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Thanks so much, everyone.
I did in fact go back to bed and napped off my self pity and irrational fears. It's so weird, because I have literally told people all the things you all just told me - that growth u/s' are unreliable, that internals are pointless, etc. I think I just went in there today hoping for something to really be cooking...and when I got nothing, I got all hormonal and super bummed.
But I'm okay with it all, now. I really am okay with no internals although my cervical issues do worry me a bit. And I'm generally staying positive about big giant baby not being so giant. Although I think part of my anxiety stems from my mom's experience - she was in labor for 36 hours before they took an x-ray and saw that my brother's head literally wouldn't fit through her pelvis. I know its suuuuper rare, but she actually did grow a baby that was too big for her, and knowing that is going to cause unnecessary stress about my delivery experience. Then again, all my cousins are slim-hipped, too, and had their 9lb babies vaginally. So, who knows - I just have to stop stressing and go back to my open-minded outlook on things. Thanks for hearing my hormonal mommy rant.