why are PG announcements still hard to hear?

Summer20 · March 2011

In the past week we've had 3 friends announce their pregnancies. (One is actually due within days of our last pregnancy and it was a complete "oops" - awesome.)

Anyway, I am so grateful to currently be pregnant again, but I hate that it's still kind of hard to hear these announcements. It makes me think, "we should be almost out of the 1st tri and telling everyone soon". Arrgg... I hate that I can't just be completely happy for them and happy for where we are now.

mommy411 · March 2011

I think it just comes into our territory of sadness that these people don't understand because they have never been there.

For me it get easier as time goes on. But it still hits the nerve.

Mrs.Albie · March 2011

It hits a nerve with me too. Yesterday I announced our news, and a girl from my office decided that she would do the same, after hearing about me, and outed her 8 week pregnancy. Awesome. Good for you.

I wonder when/if it will ever stop bothering me. Logically I know it shouldn't. Emotionally, it sitll stings like a mo-fo.

damabo80 · March 2011

Yep. I still feel that way. When a FH announces her PG, I inwardly roll my eyes and mutter "Of COURSE she's KTFU."

And then block her FB feed because I'm sure it's going to be full of PG complaints.

msharpe2 · March 2011

I absolutely feel your pain, we miscarried in November of 2010 at 11 weeks, and though we were pregnant again right away, hearing the announcement's trickle in about June and July babies where parents already know the gender and are halfway done already just make me cringe a little bit! I feel bad for thinking that way, because this pregnancy is special too, but I can't help it!

I think its a bit of jealousy on my part, so I usually keep it to myself and DH.

damabo80 · March 2011

RachaelA:
damabo80:

Yep. I still feel that way. When a FH announces her PG, I inwardly roll my eyes and mutter "Of COURSE she's KTFU."

And then block her FB feed because I'm sure it's going to be full of PG complaints.

I have so many FHs blocked on FB. I wish I could just delete them, but that would cause all kinds of problems.

I don't delete them, or else I wouldn't have any fodder to send to STFUparents. Embarrassed

Brownee79 · March 2011

For me it's hard because it's so carefree for them. They don't know the paralzing fear that something is going to go wrong that grips me everyday. And not that I want them to. I just wish I could be as excited about this pregnancy as I want to. Instead I over analyze everything. Well thats how I feel at least! I don't think I well really ever enjoy being pregnant like most people. But that being said I think I will enjoy holding that baby for the first time more then the others will too : ) Hopefully!

duhdaisy86 · March 2011

I know how you feel....we had just suffered our loss and DH found out that his Brother and his Wife were expecting..To be honest the last thing I wanted to hear was that someone else was pregnant...

I eventually got over being mad at other pregnant women...but it was a tough time.

It will pass...but you have a right to be upset too.