new here? struggling to cope

Re: new here? struggling to cope

• fromthewomb

  March 2011

  I focus most of my energy towards my LO, even though I haven't given birth to her yet! I am very sorry about everything and I know exactly what you are going through. Try to not think about him and talk about him as little as possible. Go get your hair done, get your nails done, go shopping! Anything and everything that is revolved around you will do! Lean on your family and friends. There are a lot of us here for you!!!

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• achase123

  March 2011

  I'm sorry.  This is the hardest time, right now.  I would suggest individual counseling and also trying to focus on the miracle that is your LO.  You deserve better than someone that will cheat on you.

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• Rachel7103

  March 2011

  Hi. I'm new to this board too and my situation is very similar. I also started my long journey with my husband when I was 15. We have been married for 2 1/2 years now and he is also the only one I've been with and only one I've ever loved. I'm currently 21 and 14 weeks pregnant (no other children, haven't had my baby yet) and now that he's moved away to go to military school he's with a lot of young single people his age and he is living like he's single. I have a lot of reason right now to believe he's cheating on me as well and he recently told me that he doesn't love me anymore. We are trying to plan our divorce now.  This may not help you much, because I'm not through it yet either, it all just came so suddenly. It's scary when you thought everything was so perfect before. 

  The girls on here have already been helpful with me with kind advice; I just wanted to let you know that I'm having all the same troubling feelings going on as you and my life feel like it just crumbled away too. I'm new here so I don't know how to message really but let me know if you need to talk.

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• jamiekm820

  March 2011

  I am in a similar situation as well. I am 21, I've been with DH since I was 12. We have been married for 21/2 years. Our son is 8months old and through a text message last night DH told me he cheated on me months ago at a training (hes in the military) and got her pregnant so she had an abortion. I work full time and go to school full time, our son is having surgery on Wednesday...he picked the worst time to tell me this.  I hope we can all make it through together

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• shelliescove3 member

  March 2011

  I am also new here... not the same circumstances but having some trouble coping... my LO hasent arrived yet (Im 22 weeks)... Just spinning all in my head with finances and worry. But I am sure we can get through this together:-) ... and hopefully be alot happier.

   

  

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• neoangel06

  March 2011

  I try to focus all my thoughts and time on my DS, but I know it can be hard at times. I had a similar situation, but we were only together for 4 years! I thought my world crumbled! It's been 7 months and it's still hard sometimes, but I know I'm doing a lot better than day 1!

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• ihendrix06

  March 2011

  fromthewomb:

  I focus most of my energy towards my LO, even though I haven't given birth to her yet! I am very sorry about everything and I know exactly what you are going through. Try to not think about him and talk about him as little as possible. Go get your hair done, get your nails done, go shopping! Anything and everything that is revolved around you will do! Lean on your family and friends. There are a lot of us here for you!!!

   

  I am very sorry...I agree, you need go pamper yourself or go shopping. This is a good time to focus on LO and you. God is good and always there for you. Praying always help... Stay Strong!
  

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