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May 2011 Moms
Hardest day of my life
Well Ladies... today was the day... i let my husband go, knowing that i wouldn't see him again for 10 months. ;(
I took it alot better than i thought i would tho, i think it was the 'dry' run 2 days ago. He was supposed to leave on Wednesday, but the ticketing agent didnt know you didnt need a passport to get in to Guam (obviously DH doesnt have a passport, just a military ID) So it took until 3 minutes before his flight took off to figure all that out (we were are the ticketing counter for 2 hrs).
I silent cried off and on the whole way there, and then i cried when he hugged me and all the way through him going through security, until i couldnt see him anymore, and im still tearing up as i write this...
Hardest thing I've had to do in my young life so far... I'm so attached to my husband... We actually figured it up yesterday in the 3 years we have been together, we have actually been physically together in person for only a year and a few months, due to him being deployed so much... now this 10 months, with him missing the birth of our baby boy...
I'm sorry i just needed to get that out... Im really upset right now, and being pregnant and hormonal doesn't help.
Thanks for reading.
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Re: Hardest day of my life
This makes me so sad for you. I'm sorry.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
I am hoping that the birth of the baby and watching him grow up for 6 months will make time go by so much faster, rather than if i were to be sitting around not doing anything. I know the time between now and then i am chalk full of things to do
My sons 3rd birthday/party to plan and have!
Im having 2 baby showers (on in Oh, one in Va)
Im going to one other baby shower
Im going to a couple of Premier Designs Jewelry partys
Im going to a couple of Mary Kay workshop things
and a few toddler b-day parties
PLUS the actual birth itself
so the next 3 months are going to be NUTS! and then when the baby gets here im hoping he will help make it go by faster, opposed to not being pregnant and not having a baby. i say that because my 3 year old has said 'mommy i want daddy' 5 times since we left the airport and it rips my heart out everytime i have to tell him 'i know but daddy's not here.' i dont even know what to tell him...
It's crappy to say, but its the truth: You're going to be ok.
I do not envy your situation what so ever. My best friends husband is a Merchant Marine and he is on a 4 month on/ 4 month off cycle (way better than being gone 10 months) and I don't think I'd even want to do that.
I give you so much credit for sticking through the situation and making the best of it. You're one tough cookie whether you believe that right now or not.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
Its not crappy to say, trust me, its just something i need to hear/read/say-to-myself. I know deep down I will be ok. I've stopped crying for the time being. Which is a good sign in my book.
There is no way i would ever want to do a 4 and 4 rotation. thats way too much time away, but i guess i cant say much, since hes been out 7 times since we met.
I am just super duper attached to my DH, i wish i wasn't THAT attached. He's like an obsession to me, or a addiction, i can't put him down. LOL thats the best way i can describe it. I have a great support system here at home, from friends and family, and i know if i ever need to vent or let off steam or just talk i can get on here and post to you guys!!!
If it werent for the bump i would have lost my mind a long long time ago!
Being attached is a good thing! If this wasn't so difficult for you, I'd be concerned lol!
My husband is hands down my absolute best friend in the entire world. I can't imagine not wanting to do everything with him. Maybe we're just lucky that way
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
I do this all the time. I love being part of the military because when he comes home from being away and we're like the newlyweds all over again. Refreshes the marriage.
Its actually military couples that we say this about, we dont really know any civilian couples anymore, since we've been away so long. But its stupid stuff like for example my husbands best friend from VA told his wife (who is one of my really good friends) that she was not allowd to eat candy or sweets at all. Or that she wasnt allowd to eat certain things, he went as far as to tell her no PB&J! This being because she had a bunch of cavities. i thought it was so dumb! and it irritated me that he was TELLING her what to do.
another couple we know, the husband is HUGE into working out and being healthy, he literally took a sucker out of his wifes mouth and threw it in the trash! ( i think this is wear the first couple in this post got the no sweets idea). She had a bag of Godiva chocolates in her car, he took them and threw them over a privacy fence at their apartment complex.
They are just really mean to eachother, and i always tell my DH dont you get any ideas from that crap because i'd kick your @ss for TELLING me what i can and cannot do!
Its sucks he's gone. I know how hard it can be. We are waiting on orders to come through right now, with him leaving about 3 months after the baby is born for a year. I keep thinking about all the things he'll miss, but I also know a new baby will make the time go faster.
Get out anything on here. Being National Guard I rely more on online communities because no one around me really understands.
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My heart is beraking for you, I am so sorry.
You must be so proud to have such an amazing husband.
My family is coming. i looked up a Doula, and the one doula i could find here is 500 and i cant afford that. So its just going to be family, and a friend or 2. We are hoping we can possibly skype in someway? or stream, just something so DH is 'there' for the birth.
This is his first (my second) and hes really upset about missing it. someone at work actually said 'your not missing much'!
the sad part is, hes not leaving on deployment until the beginning of may, but i had to come here early because he has class all of march and i cant fly after that. so hes going to miss the last 3 months of pregnancy (which seriously hes not missing a whole whole lot) and the birth, and the first 6 months of Ian's life... which just blows IMO.
Sorry for the long draw out answer LOL
I'm so sorry to hear that. :-( I can't even imagine how hard that would be. Thoughts & prayers are with you both.
Thank you to you and your hubby for the sacrifice you BOTH make for our country.
My 3 year old and i woke up from a nap at the exact same time (we sleep in the same room here at my moms) and he looked at me and said 'good morning, daddy wake up?' i said, 'good morning to you, no daddys not here' and he ran over and said 'i dont see him! where is he?!'
Daddy and Jax have been hiding in our blankets for the past week (from mommy) so when he said that he pointed at the blanket like he wanted me to pull it back. so i pulled it back, it there it was, empty space... He looked at me again and said 'where he go?' and i almost lost it! my heart just ripped out, because he has no idea, that we wont see daddy for awhile, and he wont understand if i explain it.
This is going to be a rough 10 months.
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