did anyone have a homebirth after a late loss?

Roxyroodle · March 2011

I was just wondering if anyone used a midwife or had a home birth after late loss.

We lost our baby at 17 weeks and are now due in October. We had been planning home birth and our midwife literally saved my life with our loss, hospital nearly killed me.

So we are planning a home birth this time and I am just wondering if anyone has done this and has advice does it make it easier?

What about for DH?

TIA

xnbride · March 2011

I wish I could have a homebirth. I love the concept of it. My DH is not on board with this so I don't push for it, but I think that if you are both comfortable with this option then go for it. If you have a complication free pregnancy then in many ways it can be safer to birth at home then in the bacteria filled hospital.

When I had DS2 the hospital made a lab error that caused so much time, stress and money loss and it could have all been avoided if we were at home. GL with your decision.

erinkate23 · March 2011

I'm hoping to have a home birth with my next baby. I'm so sorry for your loss; that must have been absolutely horrific.

Have you asked on the mothering.com forums? They're not as active as here, but certainly good for information! Of course, you're obviously welcome here as well.

Pregnancy after Birth Loss:

https://www.mothering.com/community/forum/list/156

Home Birth

https://www.mothering.com/community/forum/list/20

erinkate23 · March 2011

Oh, as for DH stuff - this was the site that convinced my DH I wasn't completely insane for wanting a home birth. Well... that he can play with his xbox if I agree at the time, lol.

https://www.homebirth.org.uk/blokesven.htm

ShellShockedMama · March 2011

I didn't have a late loss but my birth was ALMOST a home birth. The baby got stuck and we had to go to the hospital to get him sucked out. I'd do another home birth in a heart beat so I could try and answer any questions you may have

Roxyroodle · March 2011

Sorry I guess I confused people.

My DH loves the home birth idea I love my midwife the whole birth at home thing isn't so much the issue it is more that a home birth and natural birth is an intense experience on it's own and I am just I guess trying to prepare for what kind of emotion issues that could come up from our previous experience.

(we were sent home and my husband delivered our baby sucked hard core but it means that we are delivering our baby in the same place as our loss.)

I was asking about other home births as they are very different from a hospital births.

roundtheworldgirl · March 2011

I didn't have a late loss, but I have had two home births (I also miscarried at home, but it was at 10 weeks). The first birth was really hard - 21 hours of active back labor - and honestly afterwards I felt pretty positive I never wanted to give birth again. I didn't forget the pain like everyone says you will. Then I got pregnant again only four months after DD1 was born, and I spent my entire pregnancy terrified of labor. I planned a home birth anyway, and I have to say that all thoughts of my first labor flew out of my head once DD2's labor started. I felt confident and positive and it was only 13 hours, and while I had back labor, I felt a lot more on top of everything than I had the first time. My second labor redeemed my first birth experience.

DH was totally on board both times.

I don't know how relevant this might be to you, since I'm not comparing a late loss with a second birth, but maybe it will be helpful. Good luck with your plans.

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