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SarahTx5701
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moms with toddlers...how ya holding up?
SarahTx5701
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Just curious how all of you are doing?
How do your days go?
I know a lot of us were on 3rd tri and freaking out at the thought of 2 kids. Is it better than you thought? Worse?
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Re: moms with toddlers...how ya holding up?
DS#1 LOOOOOVVVEEEESSS DS#2!! If only we could keep him from hanging all over him! LOL!
Going well though. Going from 1 to 2 was a much easier transition than 0 to 1!! It really was like nothing changed. I am actually less tired too, than I was when I was pregnant.
DD1 loves DD2 also. She seems to be adjusting really well. Has learned to play well on her own, and is just becoming a lot more independent.
That said, I am feeling a TON of guilt over the whole thing. Like I said, DD1 is fine, or seems to be, but I can't help feeling like the worst mom ever cause I can't do 90% of the stuff I used to do with her. I am starting to wonder if it's PPD again, or if I am just normal. I am not sitting around crying about it, typically, but I could if I let myself. Sometimes I just look at her little blonde head sitting there playing by herself and it kills me.
I try to spend time with her when I can, but when you go from 100% of your time dedicated to her, to like, 10%, it is a big difference.
And now I really am crying.
DS is 4, so I guess not a toddler anymore, but I'll answer anyway. Most days are fine. DS is in preschool for 6 hours a day though and when he's home he's very sweet to the baby. He's just begging for attention in other ways. When I'm changing her he suddenly has trouble wiping himself in the bathroom, when I'm feeding her he is suddenly dying of thirst, when I'm rocking her he needs me to come play with him right then. It's to be expected after 4 years as an only child, and much better than if he was mean to the baby, so I'm trying to be as patient as possible.
*hugs* You are doing great, mama! I do admit that is one of my biggest worries about having another kid, but if she seems to be content and knows that she is loved, then you are doing wonderfully! It won't be long before DD2 is a little less needy than she is right now and you can spend more time playing with both of them.
I may need you to remind me of that in a couple years when I have 2 kids, though!!
Reese!
You're a GREAT MOM. Do not doubt yourself. I feel those feelings too. Ds is saying "just a minute" all the time now because that is what he hears all the time from me. It sucks. Kids are resilent and won't bre scarred for life because they lost some attention. All kids go through it at some point and they turn out fine.
It's hard and I know what you mean but don't be so hard on yourself. Pretty soon we'll all be out of this survival mode and things will get easier!
big hugs to you!!!
DS also loves dd so much, though i think hes pretty upset with mommy since I dont have much extra time when im not bfing it seems. Hes continuting to stay in daycare/preschool for routine and to keep our spot. Plus his friends there are way moer fun then mommy.
The first couple of nights where harder since ds didn't want to sleep well...but we soon figured out his 2 year molars are cutting through, so he needs some tyenol at night to keep the pain away (his poor little cheeks are swollen/red becuase of them)
But overall I'm starting to get the hang of 2. We will see on saturday for sure when dh isn't home to help me. eee a little scared i have to admit.
I know I am not scarring her for life, and she will be glad for the sister in the long run, I just feel like we sort of rocked her world.
Better than I thought, for sure. I was thinking it was going to be like going from 0 to 1 kid times 2.
But it's been pretty smooth. DD LOVES him - but is all over him all the time. She's at preschool a couple days a week, thank goodness - that is my sanity! When she's home it's harder, but we manage okay.
It's going well, it's easier than I thought. I learned how to put babies down for naps and bedtime with DD, so with DS we started it Day 1, so he sleeps really really well.
The problem with that is, I really don't feel connected to him. Sort of like he's just a baby I have to take care of. I don't know if it's because he sleeps so much, or if it's because DD is awake so much more than him, or what?
ETA: The physically hardest part is sometimes I feel like all I do is feed people. Me, DD, DS, Me, DD, DS, etc. lol
Okay I was only lurking in this thread, but I just have to say - I LOVE these responses! You are giving me hope! I am more than a little nervous...