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So I thought once I had this baby that I would be able to play with Cruz again...HA HA HA what an idiot I am!  Jagger constantly wants to be held and when he sleeps I end up dashing around the house going to the bathroom while I have a chance picking up clothes doing a load of wash, or just sitting and resting.  Jagger isn't a good sleeper and now he has a little cold so I'm really holding him a lot.  I feel guilty that I'm not doing things with Cruz and that he is watching SOOO much tv!  He does go to preschool 2 times a week and mondays he goes to play at my parents house and wed my nanny comes and they play HARD all day so its not like he is just sitting around the house all day but I feel guilty that I'm not the one doing things with him.  He and I do sneak away to go to the grocery or little errands.  The other thing is I feel like I'm constantly yelling his name.  Cruz stay out of the bathroom cupboards, Cruz use inside voices, Cruz pick up your toys.  I have to admit I'm sick of listening to myself!! How did you get through the first few months? 
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  • seattlestefseattlestef member

    Ok I don't have a newborn and toddlers yet, but my initial reaction is that this is a temporary situation. It sounds like you've got a great system set up to make sure that Cruz gets interaction and stimulation throughout the week. In a few months baby J will be more independent and soon enough they'll be able to play.

    Just keep doing what you can - it sounds like you are doing a really great job to me!

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  • coribeccacoribecca

    It's really hard.  I felt guilty, too, especially in the evenings when DH wasn't home.  Storytime has always been a really special time for Evie and I, and we'd spend 30-45 minutes reading books.  When G was little and DH was at work, her storytime was drastically shortened.  I'd try to make up for it when DH was home.  He'd go spend some time with G and I'd have one-on-one time with Evie.  Just remember that it's temporary, and you're probably a lot more upset about it than he is.

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  • MissLauraQMissLauraQ

    It's hard with me too, even if Alex is older.

    There is SO MUCH TV/Video games just so I can get things done.

    And since Willow has been born all I do is yell at Alex.  And it makes me SO SAD.  I could say that the yelling will reduce, but it's not slowed down.  Because now that Willow is older - it's just a bunch of yelling so they don't scream or run around or rough house or take each others toys etc etc. 

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  • LifesPeachyLifesPeachy member
    imageMissLauraQ:

    It's hard with me too, even if Alex is older.

    There is SO MUCH TV/Video games just so I can get things done.

    And since Willow has been born all I do is yell at Alex.  And it makes me SO SAD.

    Same here Sad Doesn't help that by the time we get through homework and dinner, it's basically bed time! Wish there was more time in the day.

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  • mrssmith717mrssmith717
    I don't have two yet, but one of my BFFs does and, girl, get thee a moby or some sort of carrier!  My friend's littlest one is in the mei-tai probably half the day.  ;)
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  • IdahoGirlIdahoGirl
    I totally feel your pain! I feel the same way with Madelyn and Will isn't much of a napper. I made a point to spend a little time with her in the am when Will wasn't up yet, time with her when others were around to hold Will and I use my Moby a TON and I take Mads for a walk or dance with her if it's raining. Like C, bedtime is the roughest, but the older Will gets and more scheduled he gets, the easier it is.
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  • Seattle_JiLLnSeattle_JiLLn

    You'll get the hang of it.  But I will say that I yell at Ben too much.  I'm trying so hard but man I get tired and frustrated and the dawdling and not listening and the playing too rough make me nuts!

    In the beginning though I got a lot of time with Ben because I was still going to BCC classes with him and Little Gym and all and I'd just keep Cooper in the Moby or Ergo.  Now I try to spend the time when Cooper is asleep and Ben is awake with Ben, but I'm definitely guilty of turning on the TV or the computer more so I can either screw around or make dinner or whatever...  

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  • breebree13breebree13
    Like everyone else said it is only temporary....don't feel guilty! Sometimes I would just forget about the things I needed to do around the house and just focus on Connor while I had the chance.I also wore Syd a lot at first and would take Connor on a walk or we would go to the play place at the mall. It's still not me playing with him but at least he was getting away from watching the TV. Connor would also bring me books while I was nursing and I could sort of read to him and take care of her. In the last month things have become much easier and balanced...of course we still have our moments when they are not but I don't think there is anyway around that. Just hang in there in a few months things will be better!!
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  • cari12cari12

    Ditto the others, don't feel guilty! It's such a short time and it's very easy to be overwhelmed when you've got two kids that need attention at the same time. Harper's watched more TV since Marin was born than I ever thought I'd let her and had quite a few "pop in the microwave and serve!" meals - but she's happy, healthy, and I'm a (somewhat) sane Mommy :) Now that Marin is getting older and more interactive, we've had the TV off a lot less and they're starting to play together some and they almost always nap at the same time so I get a break most days.

    Also wearing Marin early on was great. Great for getting out, great for keeping Harper from bugging her while she was sleeping, great for when she wanted to be held but I needed two hands. 

    Hang in there, it goes by SO fast and before you know it you'll be wondering where your newborn went :-D

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  • IdahoGirlIdahoGirl
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    Ditto the others, don't feel guilty! It's such a short time and it's very easy to be overwhelmed when you've got two kids that need attention at the same time. Harper's watched more TV since Marin was born than I ever thought I'd let her and had quite a few "pop in the microwave and serve!" meals - but she's happy, healthy, and I'm a (somewhat) sane Mommy :)Now that Marin is getting older and more interactive, we've had the TV off a lot less and they're starting to play together some and they almost always nap at the same time so I get a break most days.

    I bolded the parts that totally fit where we're at.  I was starting to feel a LOT of guilt over the TV issue, but the older Will gets, the less the TV is on :)

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