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How can some people be so mean?

missyjgmissyjg member
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Obviously not SAIF related but I can't get this out of my mind. I went to the grocery store this morning to pick up a few things for work. Well as I was grabbing a cart a very heavy lady was getting into a motorized cart. Another lady went right up to her and said " You know lady, you should walk. This cart is just enabling you to stay this heavy. Exercise would do wonders for you" The heavy lady just ignored her but this bltchy lady didn't stop there. No she turned again and said loudly to the guy that was with her "She's going to break that thing, fat sweaty cow". I couldn't believe it! The heavier lady heard her and she started crying. I helped the heavier lady get into the cart and told her to ignore people like that.

Ever have those times where you wish you could rewind time to act differently? I should have confronted that lady, I'm so irritated with her. I just couldn't believe that was happening and before I knew it, the bltchy lady was gone. As if that lady didn't know she needs to lose some weight. Come on, she doesn't need a skinny little thing like her telling her that in such a downright mean way and then calling her an evil name. Sometimes I don't get people at all. Everyones entitled to their own opinions, but WHY state them out loud when you know it will hurt someone else? The look on the heavier lady's face broke my heart.

Vent over....

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    Wow, that is just cruel. I can't believe someone would say that to another person.
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  • duke'sgirlduke'sgirl
    Oh, that makes my heart sink. I think you did the right thing by letting the woman know that not everyone looked at her in that manner and helping her. It wouldn't have made anything better to say something to the other lady. How she could be so cruel, I don't know, but I'm sure confronting her would have only made her say something rude to you. Best to ignore such negativity!
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  • qtpa2tqtpa2t member

    Wow.  That is so incredibly rude!  I'm just speechless.  

    (Though now that I think about it, it would have been priceless to go up to her and say she needs to shut her mouth.  That using it is just enabling her to be a raging, insensitive *** who makes judgments without knowing anything.) 

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  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    I'm totally sitting here crying right now. I just don't get how people can be that mean.  I can tell you that even being "plump" makes me feel self-conscious, I'm sure that woman has some major issues even leaving her house, and that's beyond the physical ones.  I think people who go out of their way to make others feel bad (holla' F5 Bastard, lol) are just very very sad and pathetic people who are really very lonely and miserable inside. And the only thing that makes them feel better is to put other people down. There's a special place in hell for them. And the karma truck ALWAYS comes around. I think they forget that in their narcassism.

    Thank you for helping her. You're good people ;-) 

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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03
    How cruel. OMG, my heart breaks for that poor woman. I'm glad you were able to comfort her, even if you couldn't confront the nasty, rude woman.
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  • preheatedovenpreheatedoven member

    That is just awful:( That poor woman. I agree that confronting the b*itch probably would have done nothing.

    You are a good person for reaching out to comfort her and help her. 

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  • MrsKolasaMrsKolasa

    It made me gasp just reading it. OMG. She can have an opinion about the matter, but there is no need to be cruel to anyone. Besides, did she think that lady was going to just stand up and say "thanks! I never thought of that!" ??

    Fvcker.

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  • PeachyKatePeachyKate
    I ask myself that question all of the time.  I think you are awesome for telling her to ignore people like that, although it must be so hard.  I agree with Davez, even leaving the house must be hard let alone dealing with the looks she must get when she does. 
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  • MouseygailMouseygail member

    so cruel!!  and while I'm sure it would have helped YOU to confront that bitchy woman, i think it was probably better for the other lady that you were just kind to her and helped her. 

    wtf is wrong with people... :(

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  • dusk42dusk42

    What a witch.  Karma is all I have to say.
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  • missyjgmissyjg member

    imagePeachyKate:
    I ask myself that question all of the time.  I think you are awesome for telling her to ignore people like that, although it must be so hard.  I agree with Davez, even leaving the house must be hard let alone dealing with the looks she must get when she does. 

    Yes and on top of that the stigma of going into a place where she buys FOOD and is probably judged if she buys anything but vegetables... there is no way this lady could have walked the store, it's a huge store. I hope Karma does bite that bltch in the butt. I'm embarrassed being 45 lbs overweight. I can't imagine how that made her feel, having a complete stranger say that. I still wish I would have said something to that lady, but I know it probably just would have caused a scene and made things much worse. The guts it took for this poor lady to come out at all. I truely wish her the best.  

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  • RoxBrideRoxBride member

    I wonder how that ugly woman managed to be so perfect that she has no flaws, and can go around pointing out other people's?

    That just makes me sick.

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