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kbird426
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DH and i dont agree...
kbird426
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on ANY names! it wasnt this hard to name DD. i had her name picked out years before we were married and he loved it. im getting very frustrated i guess ill have to put more pressure on him when we find out the sex in a few weeks. anyone else having trouble "agreeing"?
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Re: DH and i dont agree...
DH and I have very different naming styles. He loved the girls name, but for boys names I never thought we would find one we both loved. This is how we got there:
I printed a list of 1000 or so names. I gave the list to H and he crossed off names he hated, leaving maybe's and ones he loved. I then went through that list and crossed off the ones I hated, leaving the maybe's and ones I loved.
We had about 10 names when finished. With those names, we tried it on with our last name, crossing off names that didn't work w/ the last name. That left 5 good names. Then we tried on each name for about a week a piece, until we concluded that Dillon was the winner.
Dillon was not a name I or H LOVED, at the beginning, it was not even on either one of our radars, but now it is the perfect name for our son. It is so much my son it feels like the other 4 names that were left, would never had worked. I think it is rare for both parents to LOVE a name. This is the ultimate test in compromise.
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We did something very similar to what Krissy did. We both came up w/ our own lists and we went through each others lists doing what Krissy did - crossed out the ones we hated, and so forth.
We ended up w/ a combined list of about 8 or 9 names and we did the same thing- tried them out w/ our last name and also w/ the middle name I REALLY wanted (my maiden name). We really liked Colin, but w/ my maiden name, it was a no-go.
Long story short, a name DH had found was Declan. Never even heard of it before! But it was one of the few names he REALLY liked, and I sat on it, mulled it over, and after awhile, I came around and liked it - and we decided to use it.
I too agree that the concept of "you both have to LOVE it" is unrealistic. You have to work together and yes, compromise often plays a role in the process.
Good luck!
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I'd definitely recommend it.
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Yes and no. While we have very similar naming styles (traditional/old-fashioned), DH is way more particular/picky than I am. If you gave him a list of 1,000 names he will literally veto 998 of them. Boy names, especially, were harder for us to agree on. Finally we just settled on family names. We've got a top name for each gender (we're team green), although in my mind I have 2 or 3 girl names up for consideration.
Yes and no.
We could come up with a list of boys' names we agree on a mile long. Girls though? Eh, not so much.
We have ONE girls' name we're totally, completely set on. Period. If we have more than one girl, we're going to have a lot of arguments over names.
Fortunately, you guys have plenty of time. And your DH might be waiting until you find out the sex to start seriously considering names. Mine decided we're not discussing names again until we know the sex. It annoyed me at the time, but it's prevented a lot of unnecessarily arguments.
But we didn't talk seriously about names until J. was born. Yet we were still able to name him in about a day and a half.
You still have plenty of time left.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
We can't agree on a boys name (again)....we were so lucky that DD was a girl (we were Team Green first time round) because we only had a girls name chosen and had no clue on a boys name at all.
This time we again have a girls name chosen but are still stuck on a boys name, and we're pretty sure it's going to be a boy (the technician who did my 20 week scan was only pretty sure it was a boy
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