February 2011 Moms

Just need to vent...

I love my husband. Really, I do. But I'm not sure he understands that I didn't actually sign up to be a single mom. He works in NYC, and I understand that he is the sole income right now. But today he was in NJ and could have come home early. Instead, I just called him and learned that he's meeting a friend of ours for drinks and won't be home until after DS's bedtime (he was supposed to do a bottle feeding at bedtime). WTF?? I'm typing this with one hand, praying that DS will give me a few more minutes to finish pumping before I feed him from the other side, and you're out laughing it up with friends? Grrr... I don't think he gets it, and I don't want to be a nagging wife, but I'm pissed. He also won't be home until really late the next two nights for work events so I'm flying solo again. I just want to get in the car and drive home to MA to my parents' house. Which is super mature, right? ;)  Thanks for letting me vent... I feel better already.
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Re: Just need to vent...

  • Oh my. I would be so mad too. You are completely justified, in my opinion. Talk to him (calmly) about it, and make him understand.
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  • I feel you - I've felt like a single parent lately due to DH's work schedule. If I was in your shoes, I would be pissed. Definitely talk to him - you don't have to be a raving b!tch, just have an adult discussion. He won't know how you feel unless you talk to him.
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  • Im sorry. I got mad at dh last night because I wanted to give LO a bath and he said it was too late at 10pm...but he could play xbox at midnight....I called him out and he helped give LO a bath at midnight lol. Sometimes guys just dont get it.
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  • You totally have a right to be annoyed...and to expect him to help you when he says he's going to. That's kind of the main point for me - you don't mind him meeting friends for drinks - once in a while - but only when you're not counting on that bedtime feeding to help you out. Having him change the plans on you late in the game? Not cool....GL talking to him about it!
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  • I feel your pain. i drive to my mom's a couple time a week so that I can get some rest/run small errands etc.  Men seem to think because we are home all day with our LO's that we are doing nothing.

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  • i hear you. i have been begging my dh to stay with the baby so i could take a friggin shower. I haven't showered since Sat. night, but every night since then he's been working on his car. and of course, he's only home at her fussy time of night. i feel bad for putting her down crying so i can take a shower, but as soon as he's home he dodges out to the garage. he wants it up and running by the 9th. i might not get a shower until the 9th!! i'm going to cry.
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  • I feel you!  Sometimes DH is great, and other times I want to smack him!  I think it's a normal part of getting adjusted to having a newborn.  When he goes out, and I complain about wanting to go out too, he said, you chose this.  HE got me pregnant, and that doesn't mean I don't need a minute for myself!  So, I totally get it!
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