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Super Frustrated Vent

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in May 2011 Moms

Sorry if I offend anyone with this...

I am so tired of getting the "you are so young to be having a baby!" Yes, I am 20, but really does age matter? I am financially stable and I have a loving husband. I guess I learned to shut them up though. Once I hear that, I throw out the line"would you rather me be 20 and financially stable with a great home to bring a baby into this world, or 30 living off of your pay checks and yelling on Maury cause you are "Mah Baby Daddah?" I just want people to shut their mouths about being too young. I am not 16 and in high school anymore! Oh well.  

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  • AniegbunaAniegbuna
    Well nowadays most people wait until later to have children so I guess that's why you are getting those comments. Usually if someone is pregnant at 20 it is not on purpose. I know for sure that at 20 I was no where near ready to have a child but we all have different biological clocks. If you guys feel ready and can support your family then I say screw them! 
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  • kerrbear72kerrbear72 member

    Well, the fact of the matter is that you are young to be having a baby. With that being said, its not necessarily wrong of you to be doing so. Like your example, there are plenty of 30-somethings that will never be nearly as established as some 20-somethings I know.

     

     


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  • kammmmaykammmmay member

    imageAniegbuna:
    Well nowadays most people wait until later to have children so I guess that's why you are getting those comments. Usually if someone is pregnant at 20 it is not on purpose. I know for sure that at 20 I was no where near ready to have a child but we all have different biological clocks. If you guys feel ready and can support your family then I say screw them! 

    I think that its got to do with our generation having issues with commitment. I know more people over 25 living with their parents than I know people with jobs, supporting themselves.

    I'm 22 and get told that I am too young to have kids all the time. I especially hate the "Oh, you're not going to get to enjoy your youth!" My husband and I aren't the crazy, drunken, clubbing type, so there really isn't anything we feel we would miss out on. Everything else we do, we can enjoy with our kids. Plus I want to be a younger parent so I can actually keep up with my kids while they are little and running around. 

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  • MandyPandyBearMandyPandyBear member
    I know some younger moms that are way more stable capable parents than some thirty somethings.  One of the best moms I know had her first at 18 and is now about to have her second at 21.  
      

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  • Stidum82906Stidum82906
    Good for you for sticking up for yourself.  I know I would never have been ready at 20 but if you are...Kudos!  I think knowing when you are ready is half the battle of providing a good life for your child/children.  Just remember, you don't have to prove anything to anyone except yourself and your child.  The best thing you can do is be the best parent you can be and provide a secure future for your child.  From the sound of it, you and your husband are already doing that so far.  So just keep on being awesome!
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  • mellydawn84mellydawn84 member
    I get those comments too, and I'm 26, 27 when the baby is here! I think other posters are right, that society just gets used to seeing one thing. You know what's right for you, so don't let it get you down. I'm sure you guys will have a great family and be great parents :)
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  • heysupnatalieheysupnatalie member
    I hear it ALL the time and I'm 22. I have a good job, a great fiance, great family, have my own house and I am financially stable.
    I like to say, hey theres a girl I went to high school with who has been on Maury twice now....she's 18, at least I'm not a moron and know who "my baby daddy is" Go preach to her, not me.
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  • kristenndkristennd member

    People just like to criticize.

    I don't think there's any window between the "too young" and "too old" comments. They jump right from one to the other. (I'll turn 40 the same week I'm due.) 

    It's no-win.

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