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Please tell me I'm not alone...

ShaynnonShaynnon member
in August 2011 Moms

I can't be the only one who happens to be happy I'm not showing much. 

I don't want to be talked to like I'm a puppy and called "cute".

I don't want random people thinking it is okay to touch my stomach.

I don't want stretch marks across my stomach (although I will accept them if they happen).

I don't want my abs splitting since I've worked my tail off making them look the way they do/did. 

I don't want to be treated like I'm disabled. Seriously. I moved apartments over the weekend and everyone who knew I was pregnant (besides DH who knows better) treated me like I was only capable of pushing the cart.  Uh thanks, but I'm pregnant - and lifting a 10lb box which is actually lighter then my pharmacology textbook is not going to hurt me or the baby! 

I like wearing my normal shirts, and heck even my normal jeans. Even if I just need a pair or two of maternity jeans thats a ton of $ i'll save instead of having to buy a new wardrobe..that money can go towards the actual baby. 

I just don't understand what the rush is..very few woman make it their entire pregnancy looking like they did beforehand and most of them are on the show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant"...everyone just shows at a different rate.

I figure by 40 weeks I'll look like I'm defying gravity and feel the same.  I'm enjoying now when I can actually sleep, see my feet, shave properly and hide my "mini bump" under a baggy sweater. 

I only really even mention I'm pregnant when I'm devouring enough food to feed a small family and thats just to stop the dumbfounded stares. :) 

Anyone else? (I'm wearing my fire retardant (but previously owned and normal fitting) suit btw..  :)

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  • MommyHeidMommyHeid member
    Don't you just love it when everyone has to put their "2 cents" in on pregnancy? Just because they, their mom, their sister, their cousin, their wife, their daughter, or whoever had some symptom or felt some way during their pregnancy, it is like that for EVERY woman who's pregnant? We know what our bodies are going through and what we can and can't handle! I'm right there with you on not wanting people to treat me like I'm disabled! AND don't want random people rubbing my belly!
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  • itsmevkbitsmevkb member

    I'm showing and have been for quite some time and I'm good with that but wouldn't mind if I weren't showing all that much (which, during my first pregnancy I wasn't showing a ton at 17 weeks.).

    I agree that pregnancy is not disability, however, I will say that I have been treated nicer by everyone, friends, family and even complete strangers, when I was pregnant than during any other time of my life.  I say enjoy it while it lasts!  I love when people ask me when I'm due because I can hear the excitement in their voice.  Even though they may not know me, babies make people happy and bring joy, and so it's a good feeling to know that other people are happy for me and for my family that we are lucky enough to be having a baby.

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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  • harri339harri339
    Agreed...I am slightly showing, however, what I am showing just looks like a bunch of fat.  I'm hating every minute of this in between phase.  Either I want to look like I did before or I want to fully look pregnant.
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  • KChicagoKChicago
    Haha you go girl :) I'm feeling pretty good with only barely showing as well. I'm a stomach sleeper so I'm not looking forward to the time when I will be forced to sleep on my side. I also kinda like being able to keep the little kid in there to myself and not HAVE to share with the world that I'm expecting. I still love the fact that I'm having another baby and I'm glad you are bringing this up so that maybe a few of us will feel ok with enjoying each stage as it comes :)
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  • Karen1998Karen1998 member
    imageitsmevkb:

    I agree that pregnancy is not disability, however, I will say that I have been treated nicer by everyone, friends, family and even complete strangers, when I was pregnant than during any other time of my life.  I say enjoy it while it lasts!  I love when people ask me when I'm due because I can hear the excitement in their voice.  Even though they may not know me, babies make people happy and bring joy, and so it's a good feeling to know that other people are happy for me and for my family that we are lucky enough to be having a baby.

    I find this to be true too. 

    Most people are shocked when I tell them I'm nearly 18 weeks.  Personally, I really enjoy being incognito and plan to enjoy it while it lasts!

    BFP#1 4/17/10...EDD 1/6/11...M/C 5/28/10 BFP#2 11/19/10...EDD 8/4/11 Squeaker born 7/30.
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  • dakota01dakota01 member
    Agreed! Though this is my 3rd pg so showing this time is just ridiculous. I am not an invalid and bless my L&D nurse mother who treats me like I should rest... Pregnancy is not the time to get lazy and lay around, get moving it will help later!! In the same breath save the mother/baby & pg girl parking spots for those who actually have young children. You can walk the extra 20 feet.  Remember when you're in labor you'll be walking the halls...a lot!
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  • bfissel2bfissel2

    I am sick and tired of people asking me if I'm taking care of myself and the baby. As if I wasn't taking care of myself before???  What on earth would make you think that I would stop taking care of myself when I got pregnant?!?!?!?!  People are crazy.

     I do love how excited others get, though.  And I'm only 15w, not quite far enough for anyone to start touching the belly, but I doubt I would like it being done by random people.

    Here's one thing that is really pissing me off-  since about 11w, I have had the worst pain in my lower abdomen whenever I sneeze.  Dr said it is RLP and nothing to be worried about, which is great.  Sometimes when the sneezes sneak up on me, it will double me over in pain for about a minute. DH is used to it, but my mom, sister, and SIL give me strange looks and say "That's just weird, I never had that when I was pregnant. Are you sure it really hurts that bad?"  

    ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!  I'm not asking for their sympathy nor their advice.  All three have given birth, and congrats to them that they all made it through without painful sneezes. But why the need to make me feel like a pregnant hypochondriac?  I try not to let the pain show sometimes just to avoid their comments, but MAN! it seriously hurts.

     

    Sorry this was long, thanks for letting me vent! 

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  • UwannalalaUwannalala member

    Haha, funny you mentioned this. I was just about to post the same thing today. I see all these girls wanting to know when their bump will come and im like "what's the rush?!"

     I feel like a freak for being happy it's taking its sweet time! haha. Glad there are other black sheep out there ;)

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  • LJR 84LJR 84 member
    I'm definitely in no hurry to be showing. I personally don't like all of the attention that it brings. I'm showing a little now, but it's nothing really obvious.
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  • ShaynnonShaynnon member

    Oooh!  Thats the other thing I do hate:  you can't win.  If you're showing too much people give you side-eye wondering if you're "watching yourself" or if you're not showing enough then CLEARLY you MUST be starving your unborn child!  I find people aren't shy in telling you this either! 

    I finally posted a Facebook "bump" pic and in between the "Congrats" were the people going "Are you sure you're really pregnant?  Looks like you just ate a big lunch" or "Wow.  You're still so tiny...you might need to eat more!"  

    No more Facebook bump pictures until I look like I'm about to go into labor.  

    I do also enjoy how happy people get when they find out I'm expecting.

    I think it's sad that people are nicer when they know you're pregnant, I wonder if maybe they're just scared!  :):):) No-one wants to be unleashed on by a hormonal pregnant lady!  HA! You also definitely don't want to make the soon-to-be mom cry! 

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  • ShaynnonShaynnon member

    imageKChicago:
    Haha you go girl :) I'm feeling pretty good with only barely showing as well. I'm a stomach sleeper so I'm not looking forward to the time when I will be forced to sleep on my side. I also kinda like being able to keep the little kid in there to myself and not HAVE to share with the world that I'm expecting. I still love the fact that I'm having another baby and I'm glad you are bringing this up so that maybe a few of us will feel ok with enjoying each stage as it comes :)

     

    Side note:  LOVE the pic of your DD on the horse!  I've ridden since I was a little girl, and still love it. I hope my future child will want to ride!

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