F*#%ing Baby Shower

thewayiam · February 2011

Just about to head to bed, check my email, and there it is. Another baby shower invite.

First, my other bridesmaid... now this one.

I just don't think I can do it. I really don't.

lisaNDmike08 · February 2011

Can you not go? I think all of my bridesmaids would totally understand if I didn't go and would rather I not be there if I was going to be all weepy and awkward (not that you would, but I would if I had to go to a shower soon :-p).

carrieandtim · February 2011

Big (((HUGS)))!!! Nothing says you have to...I hope you protect your heart.

Muffinhb · February 2011

(((Hugs))) I hope she understands if you cant make it

thewayiam · February 2011

I would be all weepy and awkward. And this is the friend who told me, days after my D&C, while she was pregnant, too, that I should think about all the people whose stories are far worse than mine, and all the starving people in Africa, to make myself feel better (as in, get over it, not a big deal).

I don't think I can go.

jen629 · February 2011

awww {{HUGS}}} sweetie

butterfly843 · February 2011

((hugs)) I haven't gone to a baby shower since my first loss.

lisaNDmike08 · February 2011

thewayiam:
I would be all weepy and awkward. And this is the friend who told me, days after my D&C, while she was pregnant, too, that I should think about all the people whose stories are far worse than mine, and all the starving people in Africa, to make myself feel better (as in, get over it, not a big deal).
I don't think I can go.

And that settles it. You're not going. :-)

AmyinSoCal · February 2011

Have your mom or someone pick out and send her a gift though.

Oatoa · February 2011

I am so sorry that you are in this position. If these are your best friends, they will understand if you are unable to attend. Going to a baby shower a week or so ago was the hardest thing I've had to go through since my m/c. If you even have a doubt you might not be able to get through it, don't push it. Hugs to you.

johnnys june · February 2011

((hugs)) if you really feel you should get a gift or acknowledge the shower then send one separetly or get with her before or after. You have to allow yourself the excuse not to go! In these kind of situations, knowing your limits and being "selfish" are the right things to do!

xnbride · February 2011

thewayiam:
I would be all weepy and awkward. And this is the friend who told me, days after my D&C, while she was pregnant, too, that I should think about all the people whose stories are far worse than mine, and all the starving people in Africa, to make myself feel better (as in, get over it, not a big deal).

I don't think I can go.

Yikes!

It is probably a good idea to sit this one out. Big hugs.

Eris-Alexis · February 2011

I'm so sorry. Is there anyway to get out of it? ((Big HUGS))

xnbride · February 2011

...oh and one more thing...who sends invites via email?? How lame is that. I hope she is going to send you a real invite in the mail. I mean I get that a lot of people send out a pre-invite via email but then it should be followed up with a formal invite.

LilMaggs · February 2011

*huge hugs* I refuse to attend baby showers.

thewayiam · March 2011

johnnys june:
((hugs)) if you really feel you should get a gift or acknowledge the shower then send one separetly or get with her before or after. You have to allow yourself the excuse not to go! In these kind of situations, knowing your limits and being "selfish" are the right things to do!

The other bridesmaid's shower was 2 weeks after my loss. I of course sent a gift, but just picked something from the registry, called the store and paid for it with credit card. They had it waiting at the door and DH basically went out, stopped the car, and picked up the gift. They were great about it.

This'll be the same store. We'll do the same thing.

ashhope84 · March 2011

I agree with PP's, you should skip this one. Given what she said to you after your loss, it may be hard at the shower to put that aside. The shower is going to be stressful as it is and you don't want her insensitive remark nagging at you the whole time. (((hugs)))

kate626 · March 2011

I'm so so sorry! ***HUGS*** You need to think about yourself right now. If its going to be to hard do not go.

Tapatio · March 2011

butterfly843:
((hugs)) I haven't gone to a baby shower since my first loss.

Same here. If you're not up to it...don't go. In the end you have to look out for your self. It's a sticky spot to be in but if she's a good friend, she'll understand ((hugs))

HadleyS · March 2011

thewayiam:

I would be all weepy and awkward. And this is the friend who told me, days after my D&C, while she was pregnant, too, that I should think about all the people whose stories are far worse than mine, and all the starving people in Africa, to make myself feel better (as in, get over it, not a big deal).

I don't think I can go.

Friend!? Hmm She has a very twisted way of expressing friendship, or at least at that moment she did. I am so sorry, I don't think I could muster up enough courage to go to her shower either. Maybe she should donate a portion of her gifts to "all those people whose stories are far worse". I hope that if you tell her that you cannot attend, that she is more understanding and empathetic this time.

MommyandKate · March 2011

Oh dear- I'm really sorry.

mizdiz444 · March 2011

(((Hugs)))

JThomas221 · March 2011

HadleyS:
thewayiam:

I would be all weepy and awkward. And this is the friend who told me, days after my D&C, while she was pregnant, too, that I should think about all the people whose stories are far worse than mine, and all the starving people in Africa, to make myself feel better (as in, get over it, not a big deal).

I don't think I can go.

Friend!? She has a very twisted way of expressing friendship, or at least at that moment she did. I am so sorry, I don't think I could muster up enough courage to go to her shower either. Maybe she should donate a portion of her gifts to "all those people whose stories are far worse". I hope that if you tell her that you cannot attend, that she is more understanding and empathetic this time.

This! I agree, I probably wouldn't be able to go either. (hugs)

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